I have been following Kashmir Shaivism, Tantra and other schools and now I need some info on Shiva other than I can find on the net. Please, I read English and my Sanskrit is very minimal.
So other than Shiva is a "destroyer" what else should I know as a potential aspirant to worship this deity.
The are three demigods over the all the other demigods: Brahma, Vishnu and Shiva
All the the demigods are cousins.
The first demigod was Brahma. He was born without mother and father. He appeared from the belly-button of Vishnu.
Shiva was the 5th son born of Brahma.
Both Brahma and Shiva have a soul. They are each individual souls. Vishnu is an Expansion of Godhead, where Godhead ventures to create the material universe (the Cosmos).
Godhead expands his own self in plenary expansions to allow the generation of material creation(s) [in contrast with the spiritual energy (the "sat-chit-ananda" energy)].
[sat-chit-ananda = the properties of the Spiritual energy of which Godhead's abode is made of; and too the same sat-chit-ananda is the stuff of which an individual soul is made of. OTOH material energy (the elements: earth, water, fire, air etc) is NOT sat-chit-ananda but is temporal and is a place for the soul to sojourn and seek pleasures at their own risk.]
Demigods = superintendents of Universal Affairs.
Brahma is known as the creator (engineer) and also as the first progenitor.
Brahma had many children and they too had children ad-infinitum. The universe is populated by the progeny of Brahma. They are the many demigods recorded in the puranas.
The demigods are of two camps Atheists and Theists.
Brahma created the Universal affects. Shiva will be in charge of the the Universal dissolution. And Vishnu has been the maintainer all along the way.
Godhead (Narayana or Krishna) is the origin of Vishnu.
The primal expansions are:
Krishna expanded into Radha (she is the feminine energy behind the creative potency; she is the eternal consort of Krishna);
Krishna expanded into Balarama (aka Shankara) He is Krishna's brother and he is essentially the embodiment of the creation of all existence.
Since Krishna and Radha and Balarama are never separated: Shiva is considered to be the avatara of Balarama's persona here in the material world. Shiva has and equal task to Vishnu because no other can take of such a task.
Shiva, like Brahma have their own personalities [as written in the puranas etc].
Shiva, like Brahma have their own abodes and pastimes.
IMO, aspirants seeking to join Shiva's association are really after "sense-gratification/Pleasures/treasures/awards" for personal gain while they can.
It is written the the eternal consort of Shiva is named Parvati. Parvati has many hand maids and she insists that no one can approach her beloved Shiva unless they are turned into a women.
Similarly, it is a rule that no one can approach Krishna without the blessings of Krishna's eternal consort, Radha.