Encounters with other beliefs in young adulthood

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The thread about encounters with beliefs when you were a kid is still open, feel free to post there
I had always planned to make at least 3 threads, and now feels like the time to make the thread about young adulthood open for business
 
When I went to college I encountered people of various religious backgrounds.
I think it might have been the first time being in an open social context with so many other religions - Islam and Judaism were pretty common on campus.
My roommate was not very religious but said she was raised Presbyterian. My neighbor across the hall was Catholic, we became good friends, I met several Jews and Muslims the first week.
For the first time I was actively aware of things like Jewish Holidays and Kosher needs, or the fact of Halal. (I had only been vaguely theoretically aware of them before, because my grandfather engaged in practices related to Jewish observances, and there was a Jewish student in my high school)
I do remember though one young woman who really seemed deeply shaken by being in a multi faith community.
She was a slight acquaintance, I did not know her well. I think she was in the same dorm hall as a friend of mine, or she was on another wing of my dorm or something.
I don't remember clearly whether she was Evangelical or Catholic - I think she was Catholic.
I mostly knew that she was having trouble with the faith diversity because of things she said in my presence, not to me, or things others said who had talked to her.
I wish I could pain the picture more clearly. Little things came up whenever I was in a group that included her or talking to any of her friends.
I recall her grumbling about the presence of "so many of these other religions, I didn't know there would be so many people who weren't in the true faith" or "I know what I was taught, I know what is right, I mean I knew there were other religions but ..." And her seeming really upset about it. And her roommate saying she got upset about things like the Jewish holidays (notably, many non Jewish students sometimes got confused or frustrated that university offices were closed midweek during September, but she apparently had deeper concerns about this)
I only talked to her a few times about anything, and she was just not easy to talk to at all and always seemed puzzled by whatever I said.
Case in point - this I do remember - In trying to explain what region of the state I was "from" I tried to point out the geographical connection between her region of the state and mine. There's a direct highway along the entire region. But she only scowled at me and said "You're area isn't near my area"
(no, it's almost 2 hours away connected by that main highway)
 
Part 1

I had had an interest in spiritualism since childhood. I was about 18, my cousin had invited a friend over at Christmas, that he wanted me to meet. This guy was passionate about spiritualism and wanted to hold a séance.

We met up on the 26th , just the three of us. His friend, Brendan, had brought a Ouija board and gave us a brief intro on what to do. There was not a glass, but a plastic pointer, called a planchette. We each placed a finger on it and Brendan asked if “anybody was there who would like to talk with us”.

At first there was no response, but I think it was our third or fourth attempt when there was some movement. A few short steps towards the Yes position. Brendan asked if it wanted to speak to anybody in particular, but there was no response. A minute or two later there were a few very weak movements, then nothing. Brendan said goodbye to this spirit and we took a break.

We re-started in the same way and the planchette went straight off of the board in one swift movement. This was a little unnerving, so we took another break.

Later we got more movement. The name “Sue” was spelled out and in answer to the next question there was a yes. It was my cousin that she wanted to talk to. She seemed to have a strong dislike of him, and after a few minutes he burst into tears. He was not just crying but sobbing. He had trouble speaking, so we took a break. My cousin was a rather arrogant young man, so I was truly stunned by this. Afterwards Sue was still there and told us that she had died in a motorbike accident in the 1960’s.

Later that evening my cousin told us that what Sue had said was true. He then let us into a couple of secrets that we had had no idea about. Brendan was the more experienced of us, but he had never seen anything like this. We were looking at the Ouija board with a lot more respect than when we started.

The final attempts seemed to be getting interference, such as the planchet going round and round or just random letters. So we decide to finish and meet the next day.
 
PART 2 of 3

We met up quite early the next day. It had become a subject of deep fascination for us, even my cousin seemed to have recovered.

Things started quite quickly, a lot of it was the same problem as before. Random letters, circular motion and several times off of the board. Several times throughout this day we had brief contact with a male, I don’t recall his name or details. He would just join in and tell us something and maybe answer a question. It was like talking to somebody who is busy with something else. Whenever we talked with the man there would be frequent interruptions with the random letters and movements. Brendan believed that there were two spirits present.

The man at one point spelled out “not all people have souls”. I cannot recall how we responded, but he replied with “Jesus is one of these” and then left.

After a rest we tried again. After a while there was a “yes” response to Brendan and the message was for me. I remember the look of relief on my cousin’s face. It started off quite slow, certainly no drama. Her name was Mary, and she died as a young woman. Brendan asked what she wanted to tell me, it was “I am always with you”. I was rather stunned by that and asked, “like a guardian angel”. There was no response. Somebody asked, “can you help with some things”? That got a yes. A few suggestions were made, money got no response, but health got a yes. All was quiet and then her last message, “you have seen me before”.

Later that evening I was updating my mother, who by know was getting very interested in the whole thing. When I got to the seen me before part, we both realised what it was.

When I was nine, I got a serious post-surgical infection. It spread and reached my brain. My family were called in and told that all they “could do now, was pray.” My bed was beside a window on the top floor. I remember lying in bed frightened to move. My sense of balance had been damaged, and any movement caused severe dizziness and nausea. There was a nurse sitting beside me.

I recall the sunlight suddenly growing very bright, so bright it was hurting my eyes. Outside of the window, in these beams of light was the silhouette of a woman in a long dress. She started to wave at me, and I was waving back.

Since that that conversation with my mother, there has been no doubt in my mind that it was Mary at the window. Prior to that evening, it was a barely remembered incident with a no doubt delirious little boy. Ever since that conversation, my memory of the event is clear. It was sixty years ago but I even recall the nurse. She was nurse Burns, she was Welsh, and she had ginger hair.

One has only to mention Ouija boards for suspicions to come up, and with good reason. There were several times when the movements were both sudden and fast. All of us at times lost physical contact with the planchette. If it was being pushed, no single individual could be doing it. I have never doubted Brendan’s sincerity and I cannot imagine my cousin faking his moment of trauma.

After the first day, I still found it hard to believe. I planned that if we had more contacts, I would try to watch the others instead of the letters. As far as I could tell, they followed the planchette and were not looking ahead in order to spell. I have since used this method elsewhere and have caught two hoaxers with it.
 
PART 3 OF 3

About four years after this, David, a close friend, called and asked if I would go to a séance with him. We met up and all he would tell me is that he had been worried by something and that somebody had given him the number of a Spiritualist called Sam. He had met with Sam and that it was very beneficial. Sam ran a weekly séance group and invited David along. This was strange, as we were very close, yet I never found out what his problem was or who had suggested a Spiritualist.

This was first and foremost a religious group. They believed that among other problems, the souls of the departed can get lost or trapped and believers, where possible give them a voice and a medium can then advise if possible.

We were shown into a room with about ten chairs in a circle. Most people had already arrived. By the time we had hung up our coats, Sam had already entered the room. There was no introduction but two or three people acknowledged us.

An old lady was looking at me, she smiled and called out to Sam. “This young man who has come in, can you see her”? Sam walked over, “I can’t see anything”. The lady explained that she could see a young woman with me. “She has long black hair”.

We received a quick intro. First there was to be a sort of blessing, then the lights go out and you sit and relax in the darkness, and it is very dark. They have special thick curtains, there is zero light. If you feel that something is trying to talk through you, then speak aloud.

I never got that feeling, nor was there anything amazing or dramatic from those that did. I still found it very interesting and started to attend regularly. It was about my fourth time there, that upon arrival I found we had a guest. She was a young woman medium from the U.S. As I walked towards my seat, our visitor said” hey that guy that has just come in, can anybody see the girl with him? She has long black hair” Mary it seems was still with me and probably still is.

My final visit started in quite an ordinary manner. The lights were turned off and we settled down. After a while I began to feel very comfortable, I started to lean back. In reality this was not possible in these chairs. None the less I was going further and further back and the more that I did the better it felt. What I was experiencing was utter bliss, far better than any sex or drugs. It never occurred to me that this was unusual.

The next thing that I was aware of was a gentle touch and a voice, it was Sam, and he whispered that everything was alright. Now I was worried. Had I fallen asleep, had I snored? I dreaded the lights going on, I imagined everybody staring or laughing. But no, the lights went on and nobody gave me a second glance. I asked David if I had snored. He said no and was unaware that Sam had even been there.

So now I am incredibly curious. The bliss was one thing but for Sam in the silence and dark to know of it was something else. Sam as usual was dealing with a few questions when he saw me looking at him. I tried to speak but he raised his hand and said “all I am going to say is that you are nearly there.” I tried again but he just repeated it and turned away. On the way home I started to get badly scared and never returned.

Years later I had chances to discuss this, once with a retired medium and once with the writer and mystic William Bloom. They both said that I had entered a trance state and that a medium of Sam’s ability would have no problem perceiving this. The medium added that I have some natural ability and that perhaps I might consider developing it. So far, I have not felt tempted.

I don’t know what was really happening during these seances, but it has convinced me that there is something other than our everyday world and they were therefore the starting point of my spiritual journey.

There have been a few things since that have reinforced my view, but with the exception of meditation were never sought by myself. Sometimes stuff just happens.
 
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