You identify with manifest extreme - in this case female.
Your opposite is within you, for you contain the male as well.
This is the eternal marriage, this is the encounter with truth, for as Jesus said:
"when you make the two one,
and when you make the inner as the outer
and the outer as the inner, and the above as the below, and
When you make the male and the female into a single one,
so that the male will not be male and the female not be female,
then shall you enter the kingdom."
This is speaking of an internal happening, but you are taking it as something physical it seems. He merely implores you to drop your identifications, to see that all the opposites are contained in you. Now you are whole, and only the individual can enter the Kingdom - only the one who is undivided, whole. Do not insist you are half, for then you will always long for fulfillment. Fulfillment is in the Holy Spirit - the Whole Breath if you want to use direct translation, or One Life if you want to say the most meaningful ramification.