American Jews not happy in Israel?

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Israeli Jews at odds with liberal brethren in US - Yahoo! News

When Hillary Rubin immigrated from the U.S. to Israel, the granddaughter of Holocaust survivors and descendant of a famed Zionist visionary felt that she had finally arrived in her true home.

But now that religious authorities are questioning the 29-year-old Michigan native's Jewish pedigree and refusing to recognize her marriage, she's having second thoughts.

Rubin is at the center of a deepening rift between the world's two biggest Jewish communities — the American and Israeli. Religious life in Israel is dominated by the strict ultra-Orthodox establishment, which has growing political power and has become increasingly resistant to any inroads by the more liberal movements that predominate among American Jews.

...In Israel, despite its secular majority, ultra-Orthodox rabbis strictly govern Jewish practices such as weddings, burials or conversions and only allow them for those who meet Orthodox definitions of a Jew. Israel grants citizenship to any Jew — Reform, Conservative or Orthodox — but once in Israel, many who consider themselves Jewish cannot get married or have a Jewish burial.

...The government only recognizes Orthodox marriage and Israel has no civil marriage. So after holding an informal ceremony with a Conservative rabbi, Rubin and her fiance — who is also Jewish — were forced to officially tie the knot in nearby Cyprus to be recognized as married in Israel.
 
BB,

No, no questions, I was just surprised by the whole thing. I was quite surprised to hear that there are no civil-ceremony marriages in Israel!

Since this a case of religious intolerance, I thought I'd share it with everyone here. All of us must be quick to speak out against religious intolerance wherever we find it.
 
don't even get me started on the religion-and-state issues they have in israel. it is RIDICULOUS that people who don't want (or need) a jewish marriage have to leave the country to get one.

b'shalom

bananabrain
 
Things are starting to change....there was a problem for converts who either had their Orthodox conversions in the US or while serving in the IDF. The government has recently
taken away from the rabbinate the ability to determine which Orthodox conversions are valid. There is no doubt that there have been abuses of power by the haredi community in Israel.
 
All the stuff I read years ago about life in the kibbutzes... they all seemed quite spiritual, quite jewish and quite liberal....what happenned?
 
Can you get a Gentile marriage? What if you're Christian, Muslim or atheist? Surely they recognise that not everyone wants a Jewish marriage?
 
if you're christian a church can marry you, if you're muslim a mosque. if you're atheist (or a jew that can't cope with the religious courts) you have to go to cyprus. that is what's ridiculous.

b'shalom

bananabrain
 
if you're christian a church can marry you, if you're muslim a mosque. if you're atheist (or a jew that can't cope with the religious courts) you have to go to cyprus. that is what's ridiculous.

b'shalom

bananabrain
Yes, this is all true. I'm not sure if it is ridiculous to require Orthodox weddings in Israel or not. I can see it as sort of a protection-while
the parents may not be religious it affects the children. This ensures
the children are indeed Jewish, eliminates the issue of mamzerim,
and any other potential issues. However, I would like to see other
options available for marriage in Israel for Jews, as long as all those
potential problems are covered. I agree they should not have to
go to Cyprus (as long as they are marrying another Jew, I must
add).
 
I'm not sure if it is ridiculous to require Orthodox weddings in Israel or not.
you're not? what sort of judaism arrogates all judaism to its purview? this is all about politics. the religious parties use their position in society to extract maximum milk with minimum moo and maintain a vice-like grip on any issues of personal status, whilst doing their level best to impose theocratic rule as far as possible whilst not contributing to the economic base through work and conducting demographic war on the rest of the state. now i wouldn't mind so much if they behaved reasonably, but they don't. they are out for their own benefit and screw the rest. this isn't about mamzerut; you cannot tell me there is a problem with this in societies where the haredim don't control jewish marriage. on the contrary, there is far more likely to be a problem with this if there is no possibility of civil marriage. a judaism that forces this issue has already lost. all they are doing are getting halakhic jews on paper only; it does *less than nothing* to ensure a society that is in tune with "Torah values". as an observant traditional jew, the hypocrisy of it sickens me.

b'shalom

bananabrain
 
if you're christian a church can marry you, if you're muslim a mosque. if you're atheist (or a jew that can't cope with the religious courts) you have to go to cyprus. that is what's ridiculous.

ok, fair enough. It's just Jews imposing something on other Jews.:eek:

I was curious. Is there a difference between Orthodoxy inside Israel and Orthodoxy outside Israel?

Does the environment in Israel "breed" a "hawkish" attitude? Are people in Israel more hostile because it's "the holy land?"

-- and/or is it like the Bible Belt in America?

I used to think Orthodox Judaism was "legalistic," but I've found that it does have some humanistic teachings to balance out what may potentially lead to "legalism." Being religious often means being dogmatic. The Hasidic Jews in the "Crown Heights" movie seemed quite "normal" and "human." Actually they seemed pretty cool.
 
ok, fair enough. It's just Jews imposing something on other Jews.:eek:

I was curious. Is there a difference between Orthodoxy inside Israel and Orthodoxy outside Israel?

Does the environment in Israel "breed" a "hawkish" attitude? Are people in Israel more hostile because it's "the holy land?"

-- and/or is it like the Bible Belt in America?

I used to think Orthodox Judaism was "legalistic," but I've found that it does have some humanistic teachings to balance out what may potentially lead to "legalism." Being religious often means being dogmatic. The Hasidic Jews in the "Crown Heights" movie seemed quite "normal" and "human." Actually they seemed pretty cool.


Any Jew can go to Israel but that does not mean they will be seen as a Jew or registered as a Jew. More and more there is a divide between the Jewish diaspora and the the ultra orthodox and their control in Israel.

Then there are problems of those who convert to Judaism and if they are seen as Jewish. The orthodox don't consider any who convert under the other movements as Jewish so they will not be considered as Jewish in Israel.

In Israel there is not the diversity of Judaism that you see outside of Israel.

Yet there is a diversity of Judaism in the diaspora which is vibrant and growing.

In the diaspora any rabbi in any movement can perform marriages, do funerals and burials but in Israel these rabbis cannot.

Can you imagine Christians not being allowed to be married in any denomination they choose to be a part of or by any minister or priest they choose? To not be allowed to be buried as a Christian because those who consider you not to be a Christian to have that power?

It would be like the Catholic church having the power to forbid Methodist ministers to perform marriages or to have to go to Canada to get married.
 
Can you imagine Christians not being allowed to be married in any denomination they choose to be a part of or by any minister or priest they choose? To not be allowed to be buried as a Christian because those who consider you not to be a Christian to have that power?

I'm not Catholic, so I wouldn't have any idea what it's like to live under "Canon Law." Having said that, I am glad my country's laws were not made for any particular religion.

It would be like the Catholic church having the power to forbid Methodist ministers to perform marriages or to have to go to Canada to get married.

I thought maybe a couple could simply opt out of getting married, but then I realised ........

....... it's because I live in a liberal Western culture where "fornication," and "sex outside/before marriage" isn't considered an abomination. They probably don't tolerate that kind of lifestyle in Israel. A couple would be forced to break up or get married -- or risk being ostracised and slandered by the community. But when they do decide to get married, they have to go to ........Cyprus.

What about converting to Orthodox Judaism. Is that an option?

How about choosing not to even live in Israel?

........or breaking up and not getting married at all?:D

........or the dangerous path of living and sleeping together without getting married?:eek:

Ok, that's five choices. I can give these guys at least some credit that they always give you a way out. Survival isn't impossible, just really hard. The important thing is that they aren't trying to kill you.
 
I'm not Catholic, so I wouldn't have any idea what it's like to live under "Canon Law." Having said that, I am glad my country's laws were not made for any particular religion.



I thought maybe a couple could simply opt out of getting married, but then I realised ........

....... it's because I live in a liberal Western culture where "fornication," and "sex outside/before marriage" isn't considered an abomination. They probably don't tolerate that kind of lifestyle in Israel. A couple would be forced to break up or get married -- or risk being ostracised and slandered by the community. But when they do decide to get married, they have to go to ........Cyprus.

What about converting to Orthodox Judaism. Is that an option?

How about choosing not to even live in Israel?

........or breaking up and not getting married at all?:D

........or the dangerous path of living and sleeping together without getting married?:eek:

Ok, that's five choices. I can give these guys at least some credit that they always give you a way out. Survival isn't impossible, just really hard. The important thing is that they aren't trying to kill you.

Well many Jews choose to live outside of Israel because of these issues, and many Israelis leave because of these issues.

Government needs to always be separate from religion in my opinion.
 
It's just Jews imposing something on other Jews.
harrumph. the trouble is that these guys are quite happy to impose their views without taking any responsibility for the consequences, or being accountable. this might not seem so bad when it's just ("just"!) weddings, but when it's a matter of who gets a building permit or what institutions public funds get diverted to, it's another matter.

I was curious. Is there a difference between Orthodoxy inside Israel and Orthodoxy outside Israel?
depends what you mean. in israel the ultra-orthodox are very firmly in charge of orthodoxy, although they are increasingly challenged by the "hardalim" - the "national-religious", who are increasingly haredi in outlook but profoundly committed to turning zionism into a religious enterprise, with which goes much of the settlement enterprise as a religious movement. outside of israel it is very much dependent on the country. in the uk, for example the mainstream orthodox tend to look over their right shoulder to the haredim more than they should and kowtow to their credentials rather too much, but they don't run things in any meaningful way. even less so in america, where the orthodox are numerically a minority. there's no one thing called orthodoxy, or even ultra-orthodoxy. it's very determined by whether you're ashkenazi or sephardi, yeshivish or chasidish, litvak or yekke or hungarian or russian or polish or iraqi or yemeni or moroccan or syrian or german, this rebbe or that, this rosh yeshiva or that. it is generally what is referred to as "the narcissism of minor differences". the difference in israel is that orthodox and ultra-orthodox groups are able to get their hands on public services, with extremely mixed results and indeed very worrying results if, say, you are a resident of jerusalem who is not orthodox, for example.

Does the environment in Israel "breed" a "hawkish" attitude? Are people in Israel more hostile because it's "the holy land?"
no, people are more hawkish and hostile because they get stabbed, shot at and blown up more often there. of course, this has now been going on long enough for being hawkish and hostile to be adopted as the default attitude. in other words, it's a lot more complicated.

-- and/or is it like the Bible Belt in America?
only in the mind of the sort of people that think that darwin-spouting scientists are coming to drag their children out of church and get involved with disingenuous abominations like "intelligent design" and "christian zionism".

I used to think Orthodox Judaism was "legalistic," but I've found that it does have some humanistic teachings to balance out what may potentially lead to "legalism."
i'm not trying to be rude here, but "legalistic" is usually a stick used to beat judaism in general, in order to contrast it unfavourably with the oh-so-superior christianity. it's a false dichotomy, like "judaism is about 'law', whereas christianity is about 'love'". it's what i call a "bollocks truism".

Being religious often means being dogmatic.
and being non-religious often means being wishy-washy. of course it often means nothing of the sort - and so it is with religion.

The Hasidic Jews in the "Crown Heights" movie seemed quite "normal" and "human." Actually they seemed pretty cool.
well, this is what i keep saying. in an ideal world, of course all overtly religious people would be living embodiments of the best their belief system brought out in people. unfortunately, it seems equally or, indeed, more likely that a religious background, learning, codes of behaviour and dress does not prevent someone being a total and utter arsehead. you should not be surprised that a hasid turns out to be a good bloke or cool guy, but, equally, you should be surprised if a bloke in a big black hat and beard is a total and utter bastad. and, unfortunately, too often, that ain't so.

Tamar said:
In Israel there is not the diversity of Judaism that you see outside of Israel.
i don't agree with that. it's just that the diversity is rather better hidden because of the tribal costumes. people assume your politics based on your dress and particularly your headgear. there are some really fascinating models of judaism coming out of israel (look at yakar, the pardess or hartman institutes, elijah.org or even, i hate to say it, the enormous success of the "kiruv" movements. there are vastly diverse models of jewish art and culture as well. it really depends what you mean.

Yet there is a diversity of Judaism in the diaspora which is vibrant and growing.
in some places. some people are keen to write off anglo-jewry, for example, despite the fact that it has a thriving jewish music scene and was the birthplace of the limmud platform which has gone global. we still have a few things to teach the world.

In the diaspora any rabbi in any movement can perform marriages, do funerals and burials but in Israel these rabbis cannot.
well, yes, but you are ignoring the historical reasons that this happened, which is that the "progressive" denominations shunned zionism until after the holocaust, by which time they arrived to find that the "national-religious" establishment was closed to them, as the socialist founding fathers of zionism like ben-gurion had happily handed them the key to the banana plantation (in the expectation that religion would not survive in the brave new workers' paradise they were building) - it was willing to accommodate the ultra-orthodox, of course, but not the reform, liberal and conservative movements. that still has not changed, unfortunately.

Saltmeister said:
....... it's because I live in a liberal Western culture where "fornication," and "sex outside/before marriage" isn't considered an abomination. They probably don't tolerate that kind of lifestyle in Israel.
look, the orthodox establishment don't tolerate that anywhere, but they are not in a position to enforce their attitudes except where the general populace demand their imprimatur on a conversion or marriage. i had an orthodox wedding, but as long as we gave the bride's address as her parents nobody made any problems. you just have to understand what the system will cope with and what won't. as it is, all the above "liberal western" cultural behaviours are very much visible in israel - both heterosexual and homosexual!

What about converting to Orthodox Judaism. Is that an option?
if you're crazy enough to want to convert, it's certainly possible. however, it's a minefield.

Tamar said:
Government needs to always be separate from religion in my opinion.
i would say that both government and religion certainly ought to keep their noses out of peoples' bedrooms if they haven't been invited.

b'shalom

bananabrain
 
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I was curious. Is there a difference between Orthodoxy inside Israel and Orthodoxy outside Israel?
As an outsider, who only visited there for about five months some decades ago, my impression was: yes, the Orthodox inside Israel are crazier. Fundamentalism is an attitude I despise in all religions, but outside of Israel I have generally found Orthodox Jews, even if very "fundy" in their belief systems, to be less noxious than "fundies" of either the Christian or Islamic variety. Within Israel, they have more scope to be noxious.
Does the environment in Israel "breed" a "hawkish" attitude? Are people in Israel more hostile because it's "the holy land?"
Some, certainly. But I think a fairer generalization would be that the environment of Israel makes people more NERVOUS, which can manifest in various ways, not always in hawkishness or hostility. For example, I considered myself a rather heavy smoker, until I saw the pace at which Israeli smokers go through cigs...
 
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