would you still see him or what would you do

I called him and I told him I am not coming back any more. Also during the session he would ask me what I am doing over the week/weekend or what I did before coming to see him. I am not coming to therapy to talk about my social life. Also I could not believe when he told me to give one away if I buy. Why would I do that. I love all my clothes and plan on keeping them forever, I just want to work on not to feel tempted to buy. How hard is that to understand.

And then I got a really stupid answer on another website. That I should meet him half way and give something away. That she used to go for therapy and first hated her therapists but then started to obey them. I emailed her back and said that is the stupidest idea. Therapy is not an occult where you obey them. Therapy is to help you come to your own conclusions not to obey the therapist. And a therapist is supposed to listen to what you want to accomplish.
 
Ok, I havent had much experience with therapists. but if you think he was being unprofessional, you could report him............

So perhaps there is a shopoholics site etc. Im not sure.

We come from two different worlds, lovey, and I feel that I am not the best person to talk to you about this. I have my issues, and I can be really harsh and brutal(in conversation) at times, I am working on this , so I shall bow out now.
Best of luck

Love the Grey
 
I wasn't trying to mock you, and apologise if I offended you. I think, to me, based on what you say, you evidently have a problem around buying/consuming, and you're so offended by what the therapist has said because he has touched a raw nerve.

A good therapist isn't a yes-man. He'd be a poor guide if he just nodded and took your money and didn't help you work on certain issues.
 
I am not saying a therapist is a yes man but a therapist will never ever tell you what to do with your possessions, investments, home, etc.. I dont think any of you really understand what therapy is all about. And why would I give any of my clothes away just because he said to. Think about it. I saw him only once a week, he doesnt live with me. Who the hell is he. He is no one, except someone I chose to talk to once a week about things that were bothering me. And no he does NOT have the right to tell me what to do with my belongings. No one does.

He did not strike a nerve, he has no right to tell me what to do. A therapist is there to guide you, to follow your lead. And no he did not listen.

I never said he should not help me with certain issues, but what part of "I want to enjoy and keep my possessions forever, I just dont want to add to them" didnt he (or you guys) understand. Someone else told me that this therapist probably does not have many patients/clients and whoever comes to him he wants to keep them or make them neurotic.

And I believe if a therapist told you something similar to what he told me and you loved your stuff (or whatever it is you are into) you would not go back and dont tell me you would think about what he said because that would be lieing.

Everyone on here is also being very free with my stuff. I learned on these web sites to take everything everyone says with a grain of salt because I have learned most people that post do not know what they are writing about and spill out any old crap.
 
WAVING A RED RAG AT A BULL ?

You asked advice, you were given it........ chose to take it or not, but dont get upset when people tell you stuff you dont want to hear.

Bowing out AGAIN!
 
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