Well no, they begin to possess my words and they cease to be my words at all.
You wish people to listen to you, and follow, but to not think? Do you likewise listen to people, and follow, but not think? Will you be listening to my words, and following, without thinking? Recall the golden rule.
I would enjoy hearing how you can rationalize dual thinking as a way to experience oneness, it would be quite interesting. In reality, to experience oneness with another, both would be completely silent and share meditative vibes only.
A person can make a vibe, communicate a vibe, and sense a vibe. If you can each make vibes, communicate vibes, and sense vibes together, then you can be like one person that senses vibes, communicates vibes, and senses vibes. In you are making, communicating, and sensing vibes from each other, then you are more like one, than when you mentally masturbate alone.
"blessed is the one that has not seen, and still believes"... this is faith, taking something as fact without knowing it to be so.
Yes and no. Faith is in a person. If a person says see, then see. If a person says believe them although you haven't seen, then you can believe them although you haven't seen. I submit that you are unable to see whether someone is honest as you meditate, so there is a presence there you can't confirm no matter how hard you meditate.
If Buddha expected faith without confirmation, I would not respect his words and likely wouldn't have studied him as much. How others perceive me is irrelevant, it does not matter whether they have faith in me, it serves no purpose at all. In fact, if they have faith in me, they are putting some kind of responsibility on me, this I would certainly not enjoy at all.
Your feelings towards responsibility are noted, and they do match what I said early on in this thread, about a person who does not take responsibility.
This is your experience, so it is certainly true. You are of dual mind, so you think that lover and loved must be separate. It is possible for there to be only love, no object or subject at all, just the love. This would be true oneness, it is a shame you have not experienced it.
It is a shame you think you know and state what someone else has experience with. There is not an object in loving someone else, unless you see someone else as an object. There are at least two subjects, yourself and another.