Hi RJM —
(I am responding to your direct question. But this thread is making me very uncomfortable now.)
This points towards subjective experiences which I have no intention of trespassing or demeaning.
Please be sure that I am not denying the touch of God, or that God works in mysterious ways ... my responses were twofold:
The first is that there is an undeniable tendency to 'sentimentalise' the Divine and the risk of ending up reducing God to a micromanager with OCD issues! That every good thing that happens is directly attributed to God, and therefore every bad thing that happens is equally directly or indirectly attributed also ... to the point where everything that happens is a direct result of divine interference.
Example:
We lost our firstborn at six months into the pregnancy. Our son. Thomas (the name is something of a family tradition). Miscarriage is tough at any time, and six months is tough when you've felt the life moving ... and then it stops.
Two years later and pregnant again, this time with twins. And someone says twins is a kind of pay-back from God for taking Thomas. I had to bite my tongue.
Point:
I have, on Scriptural authority, a firm belief that we live in a contingent world, a world where there are beautiful sunrises, shooting stars, kids and grandkids, close-hauled yachts just flying along ... and there's tsunamis, and earthquakes and cancer ... a world where 'shit happens'. I do not believe in God as a kind of fairy godmother or cosmic fixer ... rather I believe in a God who is there with you. I believe in Divine Empathy.
The second is I stand by my assertion that there are many, and they are the vast majority, who do not hold the conviction that their prayers were answered. Nor do they believe their prayers are ignored. They believe, rightly or wrongly, because they believe it's the right thing to do. They believe that if their prayers are not answered it's because God knows better.
Example:
My dad no doubt prayed for a windfall. To win the pools or something. On the other hand, he worked a 9-5 job five days a week, and then he played in bands in concert halls and pubs seven nights a week, and lunchtimes on Sunday ... he worked every hour God sends to put food on the table and pay the rent. I cannot condemn him for asking for a break ... but it never came, but his faith was unshaken and solid and, as naive as it might be in terms of what he believed, I stand by it and in times of my own trial it's simple enough to say 'what would dad do?' and then I know which way I have to go.
Point:
I'm not demeaning your faith or your experience, but I will stand in defence of those who have faith but have not had the same order of experience. Their lives and their souls might well have been touched and they missed it, but nevertheless, they do not know, they do not have your certainty, but they do have faith, and that faith is not unreasonable nor illogical.
Scripture says it over and over again: the rich man and the publican, the widow's mite, the centurion's daughter, those who have not seen and yet believe, the poor in spirit ... "Now faith is the substance of things to be hoped for, the evidence of things that appear not" (Hebrews 11:1).
If we say without proof there is no reason to believe in God, then we mock these, those He holds closest to Himself.