"Is "my will" another intrusion?"
The selfishness of the ego? Yes, I expect it is, thus requiring a hierarchy of judgment deciding just how far our selfishness may proceed.
"How to tell them apart?"
Nice question. I propose a compendium of principles of conduct that we might hold up our actions against for our own judgment in whether we are being steered into perdition; I just happen to have one:
preamble: Conduct is determined by personal goals, we get from here to there thru temptation.
Faults to beware of:
1) Contempt
2) Sadism
3) Assignments
4) Accusations
5) Warfare
6) Spite
7) Insults
8) Gratuitous references to violence
9) Flippancy
10) Irresponsibility
11) Judgments based on fear, vanity, jealousy, greed, hate, resentment, distrust.
12) Gloating - self satisfaction over another's woes
13) Bombastic - intimidating thru rhetoric
14) Arrogance - overbearing selfworth - self importance, authoritativeness, superiority
15) Egotistic - selfish, self centered, conceited, boastful
16) Quarrelsome
17) Using expletives - attention grabbing
18) Dishonesty
19) Exaggeration
(this is a subjective reasoning that may encounter differing opinions)
A Proposed Prime Directive:
You can come and go as you choose and if you get what you give (karma) then I suppose you will eventually learn to give what you want = Peace, Love, Compassion, where peace = due process; love = inclusive; compassion = making the argument for the opposition.