Hi, I'm new here (boy, what a way to introduce myself, lol), but Julia, I was in the same position you are now.
I'm gay and a now ex-Catholic. It wasn't the election of ol' Benny that did me in, it was John Paul II. So dig this, the Catholic Church hid these pedophile monsters for years, but when gays and lesbians want to get married, the Church stumbles all over itself rushing to proclaim gay marriage an "ideology of evil."
That did it, I want a new religion!
I thought briefly about the Espicopalians, but with the election of V Gene Robinson, they threatened a war "church by church." Ughh! Didn't sound too appealing to me.
So, my thoughts turned eastward. That meant renouncing Christianity entirely.
I studied Toaism for awhile. That appealed to me. The western mind thinks of things in duality, "good" ,"evil", "right", "wrong", "righteous", "sinners."
Eastern tought transcends that type of thinging. Things are more, cyclical, not so entrenched into dualistic thinking, dogma, and ideology.
Anyways, I settled on Buddhism. Sure, it has precepts, but they are guides, not commandments. No one will punish you or reward you if you don't follow them. Plus, the Buddha taught for 45 years after his enlightenment, and homosexuality was soooo important, he never said a word about it.
The Dalai Lama said some things regarding homosexuality that don't set too well with me, but the Dalai Lama is the leader of the Tibetan tradition, and I don't follow that tradition, so we disagree, simple as that.
Anyways again, I look at it this way. Homosexuality has existed since the beginning of time, long before Jesus, the Buddah, Moses, Mohammed, ect.
Our understanding of human sexuality is vastly different than the thinking 2000-3000 years ago. We need to look at the Bible, Torah, Darhma, ect to today's culture and circimstances.
Peace and compassion to all.