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[Bandit]

Re: Passing on core values and spiritual life...

In my family I was expected to be active in the Church I grew up in... My grandfather had a role in this.. and it did provide a spiritual life for awhile but as i got older I had the intention to prove more to myself what was best for me and so began a long odyssey of experimenting and searching..



- Art

i know a couple of children who were taken to church by the grandparents because the parents did not want to go. it was interesting to see how the table turned because there was a regret from the parents later for offering no spiritual guidance at all.
one young person in our church who is now 21, wishes his parents would come to church with him & would have liked to have grown up going to church as a family.

 

[Bandit]

Sorry God.. that people think you are a form of propoganda and that people think dentists are more important than you are. I agree with Bandit.. thanks mom for making sure my soul doesnt have cavities.

LOL
i can relate but i dont expect everyone to be able to. i was forced to brush my teeth, even when i did not want to!
so i was getting my spiritual teeth brushed when mom gave me that horrible sunday morning spit bath & raked the comb through my hair, popped a zit on my face & plopped a few nickles & dimes in my hand for the offering, then sent me to the childrens choir for practice before sunday school.

there were certainly times i would have prefered to stay home & watch cartoons.
i went pretty willingly. now my little brothers was another issue. they gave mom a real hard time, but they knew it was time to get out of bed & get ready for church when dad came into the room.

i did not really get the chance to take my kid to church, because i messed up later on in life, but i think between me & his mom, we instilled enough in him, to make the right choices in time.

 

[arthra]

Sometimes what i find is that the religious Grandparent has repelled their own offspring from religion... by being too insistent or domineering in enforcing it.

So the immediate children rebel and leave their church...

The grandchildren come along and may be religious in response to the parents lack of religion.

Children have a special radar which can tell them what their parents most dislike or what will upset them most.

Being a parent can be very difficult because at a certain age you sense that your children like yourself will probably rebel as part of their character formation...

After the rebellion stage you hope they will find a more stable mature pattern but they have to do that by themselves.

- Art

 

[Bandit]

Sometimes what i find is that the religious Grandparent has repelled their own offspring from religion... by being too insistent or domineering in enforcing it.

So the immediate children rebel and leave their church...

The grandchildren come along and may be religious in response to the parents lack of religion.

Children have a special radar which can tell them what their parents most dislike or what will upset them most.

Being a parent can be very difficult because at a certain age you sense that your children like yourself will probably rebel as part of their character formation...

After the rebellion stage you hope they will find a more stable mature pattern but they have to do that by themselves.

- Art

sometimes. it is never the same. you could have 4 generations that stay in church. everyone makes there own choices. i dont think kids would go to church just to upset there parents because they dont go. (as a rule)

it would be more like not taking out the garbage & being disrespectful. kids that like to argue & pout a lot do that because they know some parents will give in & feed them ice cream for being a brat at the store. LOL

but i will say this, if there is not much discipline & teaching going on by the time they reach about 6 or 7, it is going to be difficult to get them on track. fortunately not all kids are a problem child.