Caimanson said:
Hi, I like your stance, but I think a bit of detachment can be healty, especially when things go wrong. Recently I was shortchanged by 20£ in the supermarket, I complained straight away, the supermarket's response was to check the balance in the till, guess what, it was 6 pounds short. I couldn't do anything else, there was no cctv that I could use to prove anything either. Instead of let it eat me away, in my heart I decided to let go of those £20 as I gained nothing with dwelling on it, it also made reflect: have I shortchanged other people?
Also if somebody is too possesive it might be a symtom of compensating for something else, as there could be something missing emotionally for example.
But no, you are not borrowing my toys.
Letting go of things that eat you up is hard. It's bad enough that you're out twenty quid, but then you can't help but beat up on yourself for letting it happen. I suppose one could compensate by affirming that it's all God's money anyway if that works. The main thing is to find a way, in persuit of your own enlightened self-interest, to let it go. Easier said than done, though. I sometimes say to myself "I'll remember to be pissed about this later." I like to play golf, and in golf you've got to be able to let go of your anger over bad shots or it will wreck your game. It's pretty much that way in life too.
Rich people have stuff and poor people have faith, isn't that the way it works? Religion is what keeps the poor from murdering the rich and taking their stuff. Lao Tzu said, "keep the people's heads empty and their bellies full." If you read Chinese philosphy it's pretty clear that it's about how to keep the citizenry pacified and orderly. But what if you can't keep the people's bellies full? Ah, then you have to put a little something in their heads that helps them accept not only their own poverty but also the inferiority in social status that accompanies it.
"In reality we own nothing" is a true statement since the concept of ownership is a subjective construct. The idea that "GOD" owns everything is fine with me, but I'm always mindful of the ways religion strives to construct virtue out of self-denial, and how that serves to perpetuate the stratification of class and caste. So I think we have to look carefully at our motives and emotional compensation mechanisms because deep down in our tangled psyches is a bunch of social programming that we've inherited without even being aware of it.
But why bother? Why dig down below the comfort mantle and deconstruct our motives? Why not enjoy a fluffy affirmation and leave it at that? I believe in this axiom: "The Universe arranges itself to come to the assistance of those whose intentions are clear." You can't have clear intentions if you don't know what you really want. That's why I believe in enlightened self-interest. I think that God wants us to take ownership of the earth. In fact, I think of the Torah as a primer on how to do that. But to truly have enlightened self-interest, the kind that seduces the universe to back up our intentions, I think we have to become really clear about what we really want, and that's so, so hard. Well, I find it hard, anyway.
I find the concepts of asceticism and enlightened detachment put forth by eastern religions, as well as the piety, self-denial, and submission espoused by Christianity and Islam to be serious impediments to unearthing true enlightened self-interest from under the rubbish pile of acquired social programming. I think that's by design.
Chris