WHAT IS lOVE???

cavalier said:
Reading this I can't help but think, "what the hell?"
I don't know, maybe I don't think about things enough, but this just seems to be too much. Why do we need to put everything in a box?
hmmm
cavalier said:
Well, I would certainly argue it's not definable, although I would want to add that that, in itself, does not mean we should not try to define it none-the-less.... So I guess I would say that without feeling love, or a love, we cannot know it or understand it. Reason, definition and argument would mean nothing to us.

I hope that makes sense

uh-no...the two posts seem entirely contradictory or am I missing something.

At first I thought you were indicating that the discussion was a waste of time, and then it appears you are saying that is darn near imperative. I have no issues with one changing the course...I'm just trying to keep up.
 
wil said:
hmmm

uh-no...the two posts seem entirely contradictory or am I missing something.

At first I thought you were indicating that the discussion was a waste of time, and then it appears you are saying that is darn near imperative. I have no issues with one changing the course...I'm just trying to keep up.

Wil, can I get back to you mate? I only have a minute now and in that time I can't see how I've changed course. Though it could be I'm missing something aswell.
 
wil said:
hmmm

uh-no...the two posts seem entirely contradictory or am I missing something.

At first I thought you were indicating that the discussion was a waste of time, and then it appears you are saying that is darn near imperative. I have no issues with one changing the course...I'm just trying to keep up.

Ok, I've been looking at these for a while.

In truth I thought the discussion was, at best, a waste of time. In my last I think, I hope I have explained why. That does not mean that I think, or ever thought, any discussion on the subject to be a waste of time. I have at no time felt discussion to be in the slightest bit imperative. I also don't see how I could have given that impression.

Having said all that, I am still open to the possibilty that I'm missing something, so I look forward to your reply.
 
Abogado del Diablo said:
I am unworthy. How can I reply to you?
I put my hand over my mouth.
I spoke once, but I have no answer -
twice, but I will say no more.

Don't be so absurd.
 
Abogado del Diablo said:
I repent in dust and ashes.
Instead of that, why don't you reply to me based on my actual views rather than your previous and incorrect suppositions as to my views might have been.
 
cavalier said:
Instead of that, why don't you reply to me based on my actual views rather than your previous and incorrect suppositions as to my views might have been.

I'm afraid you'd consider it a waste of time.
 
Abogado del Diablo said:
The tao that can be described is not the Eternal Tao.

Abandon all hope, ye who enter here.

Are you for real?

Can't you see that that was exactly my point about love?
That some things can't be defined or described


Discussions that people genuinely think could result in an absolute definition of the tao are, at best, a waste of time. I believe it is the same with love.
 
cavalier said:
Are you for real?

Can't you see that that was exactly my point about love?
That some things can't be defined or described


Discussions that people genuinely think could result in an absolute definition of the tao are, at best, a waste of time. I believe it is the same with love.
Therefore it is said, 'In representing the Dao of Heaven one uses the terms Yin and Yang, and in representing the Dao of Earth one uses the terms Soft and Hard, while in representing the Dao of Man, one uses the terms Love and Righteousness'.--Zhou Dunyi
 
cavalier said:
Are you for real?...Can't you see that that was exactly my point about love? That some things can't be defined or described Discussions that people genuinely think could result in an absolute definition of the tao are, at best, a waste of time. I believe it is the same with love.
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Originally Posted by cavalier
Well, I would certainly argue it's not definable, although I would want to add that that, in itself, does not mean we should not try to define it none-the-less.... So I guess I would say that without feeling love, or a love, we cannot know it or understand it. Reason, definition and argument would mean nothing to us.

I hope that makes sense


still confused.

What I am now understanding...maybe is that you feel a discussion about love or the Tao seeking an exact definition is worthless in due to the fact that the exact definition is unattainable. Yet you feel the discussion itself has value?

nope, still confused...no worries thou....been there before...rather enjoy it.
 
cavalier said:
Discussions that people genuinely think could result in an absolute definition of the tao are, at best, a waste of time. I believe it is the same with love.
Then what did I misrepresent about you or your positions?

The above statement doesn't sound like an exposition on "possibilities." It sounds like you've completely made up your mind. That's fine. But please don't accuse me of misrepresenting you when I haven't.

I personally like the discussion of the meaning of symbols, for the reasons I've stated. Obviously, Lao Tzu liked it too or he wouldn't have written anything down. You think this discussion is a waste of time. So why are you participating in it?
 
It's not just "love." Every noun is an abstraction of form from experience. Where the experience the noun symbolizes is shared by more than one party to the transmission of that noun, communication occurs. If I tell you about my "dog," is the objective reality of what I experience as "dog" entering your mind? Or is it merely an attempt to create in your mind a similar association of with your experience of "dog"?

It is of utmost importance to understand the difference between the signs and the things signified.

When Lao Tzu wrote that the Tao that can be spoken is not the Eternal Tao, I don't interpret that to mean that talking about the Tao is a waste of time. I think it means that we must understand that the words we use to describe our experience are just symbols based on our need to organize our intera ction with the Universe and, if you're lucky, share that experience with someone who associates a similar experience with the same symbol, but they aren't the Tao itself. Words are a sign pointing us to the Tao as the thing signified, just don't confuse the sign with the absolute truth of the Tao. Joseph Campbell said something similar in his dialogue with Bill Moyers in "Joseph Campbell and the Power of Myth":


CAMPBELL: The reference of the metaphor in religious traditions is to something transcendent that is not literally any thing. If you think that the metaphor is itself the reference, it would be like going to a restaurant, asking for the menu, seeing beefsteak written there, and starting to eat the menu.

For example, Jesus ascended to heaven. The denotation would seem to be that somebody ascended to the sky. That’s literally what is being said. But if that were really the meaning of the message, then we have to throw it away, because there would have been no such place for Jesus literally to go. We know that Jesus could not have ascended to heaven because there is no physical heaven anywhere in the universe. Even ascending at the speed of light, Jesus would still be in the galaxy, Astronomy and physics have simply eliminated that as a literal, physical possibility, But if you read "Jesus ascended to heaven" in terms of its metaphoric connotation, you see that he has gone inward – not into outer space but into inward space, to the place from which all being comes, into the consciousness that is the source of all things, the kingdom of heaven within. The images are outward, but their reflection is inward. The point is that we should ascend with him by going inward. It is a metaphor of returning to the source, alpha and omega, of leaving the fixation on the body behind and going to the body’s dynamic source.

[FONT=Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]MOYERS: Aren’t you undermining one of the great traditional doctrines of the classic Christian faith – that the burial and the resurrection of Jesus prefigures our own?[/FONT]

[FONT=Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]CAMPBELL: That would be a mistake in the reading of the symbol. That is reading the words in terms of prose instead of in terms of poetry, reading the metaphor in terms of the denotation instead of the connotation.[/FONT]


[FONT=Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]MOYERS: And poetry gets to the unseen reality.[/FONT]

[FONT=Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]CAMPBELL: That which is beyond even the concept of reality, that which transcends all thought. The myth puts you there all the time, gives you a line to connect with that mystery which you are.[/FONT]

[FONT=Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Shakespeare said that art is a mirror held up to nature. And that’s what it is. The nature is your nature, and all of these wonderful poetic images of mythology are referring to something in you. When your mind is simply trapped by the image out there so that you never make the reference to yourself, you have misread the image.[/FONT]

[FONT=Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]The inner world is the world of your requirements and your energies and your structure and your possibilities that meets the outer world. And the outer world is the field of your incarnation. That’s where you are. You’ve got to keep both going.[/FONT]


The process of communicating using symbols and signs involves sharing what feelings, thoughts and experiences we associate with a given symbol to see if we are communicating. We may not be able to do so. And some (like yourself) may claim to not want to engage in this process at all (though your participation here says otherwise).

I think that what you are offended by is the invasion of the sacrosanctity of your preferred symbol ("love") by an attempt to create a collaborative experience between individuals. You seem to feel that if somehow if we can find a shared meaning it strips the symbol of the personality you have invested in building yourself around it. Surely you can appreciate the irony of being so inflamed by this process and asking questions in a Jewish forum under a topic entitled: "G-d." ;)

As far as my decision to examine these symbols, I leave you with this from Prof. Henry Higgins:

"The question is not whether I've treated you rudely, but whether you've ever heard me treat anyone else better."
 
Abogado del Diablo said:
As far as my decision to examine these symbols, I leave you with this from Prof. Henry Higgins:

"The question is not whether I've treated you rudely, but whether you've ever heard me treat anyone else better."

'At's bloomin' brilliant, 'Enery!":)

InPeace,
(InFun)
InLove
 
wil said:
Quote:
Originally Posted by cavalier
Well, I would certainly argue it's not definable, although I would want to add that that, in itself, does not mean we should not try to define it none-the-less.... So I guess I would say that without feeling love, or a love, we cannot know it or understand it. Reason, definition and argument would mean nothing to us.

I'm not sure but maybe the confusion comes from the fact that you've only highlighted part of the sentence and thus changed it's meaning. To change the meaning back I've highlighted two other words which are very important in expressing what I meant.
 
wil said:
What I am now understanding...maybe is that you feel a discussion about love or the Tao seeking an exact definition is worthless in due to the fact that the exact definition is unattainable.
Yes, though possibly it could be worse than useless if the people actually arrive at a "definition".
wil said:
Yet you feel the discussion itself has value?
Not the discussion, but a discussion, a different other discussion where people could share experiences and views (which would help our individual and collective understanding)but where there was no thought of absolute definition.
 
Abogado del Diablo said:
Then what did I misrepresent about you or your positions?
Read post 60.

Abogado del Diablo said:
I personally like the discussion of the meaning of symbols, for the reasons I've stated. Obviously, Lao Tzu liked it too or he wouldn't have written anything down.
Yes, Lao Tzu wrote about the tao, but he makes it very clear that it can't be defined. Isn't this what I've been saying about love? Again and again I've said that I think discussion to be good, simply that it should be a discussion where thoughts of absolute definition are left behind.

Abogado del Diablo said:
You think this discussion is a waste of time. So why are you participating in it?
Once again you're jumping to the wrong conclusions.
The discussion that we are having now is entirely different to the one being had when I made my original comments.
The discussion we are having now, is about what the nature of our discussion about love should be. I do not feel this to be a waste of time which is why I am still writing.
 
Who are you to say what our discussion should be?

The only waste of time is this last two pages of pointless discussions wherein you suggest that you should be able to dictate to people what they can and can't discuss.

This has gotten tiresome.

Enjoy the last word.
 
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