You make some good points here.
jiii said:
Arguably, Buddhism is about "trascending" dualism, not believing one's self to be stuck in it, or bound to it.
Perhaps that is what bothers me--we need to transcend dualism rather than insist that the universe IS dualism. Duality just doesn't seem to be where it's at for me. Smelling the flowers is more like it. Enjoy the here and now, the present moment, with the full awareness that time moves on and we with it.
I think that many a Zen Master would've been very delighted at your citation of the Bible..."Like Jesus said, when we have laid the hand to the plow we should never look back."
I take that as a compliment. I don't know Zen. I didn't think it spoke to my soul, but this verse has been helpful for me.
I suppose that the "telos" aspect has the tendency of getting us stuck in the rat race just as easily as a dualistic viewpoint.
I get your point. I felt an uneasiness that there was something wrong with what I was saying. But I prefer your image of transcending. "Getting stuck" in a rat race is still
stuckness, just as bad as being bound to something. I guess I've come "unstuck" and "unbound" and I prefer to keep it that way.
When one is always striving toward a distant goal, sometimes he or she forgets to stop and smell the roses...
Then when they get exhausted and frazzled they can realize that, "Oh yeah, we're supposed to stop and smell the flowers. I forgot to do that this last little while. Gotta go out right now and smell a flower"...or admire the night sky, or whatever is around to enjoy and immerse oneself in. Maybe just the comfort of home and revel in the appreciation to be one of humanity's lucky ones who actually has a home.
because the thing they are focusing upon as their goal has arrested them.
Yeah, like I said, gotta get unstuck. Throw off the shackles of being arrested.
Also, you seem like one that is quite happy with pushing ahead toward the proverbial goal.
Can't just stay in one spot, unless that spot is exactly where I want to spend my life.
However, with some people, this approach can leave them devastated if they begin to get the idea that the great thing at the end of the "telos" is completely meaningless...then what?
Then that person has made a very serious mistake. Gotta do your homework. Gotta figure out what it is you want. Gotta make sure it exists. Gotta figure out if it's worth your energy. Gotta figure out the details of getting there, etc. By all means, don't burn any bridges and don't lock any doors. Be aware of the consequences of your decisions over the long haul. Figure out if, or how, you can live with that.
This is not just empty words I'm blowing here. It is very relevant to my present situation
today. I am in the process of making some far-reaching decisions in my life and it's scary stuff. Very serious. I'm going to have to live with my decisions, whether I like them or not. Just now I got an email from a person asking if I could change the time for our meeting to discuss some of the issues so you know I am speaking about a real situation. I have been accused for obsessing about these things but that is not the case.
I simply project myself into the future to see what it's like and then base decisions on how to get there, etc. Normally, the people I ask for advice don't think of all the details so I have to do the digging myself. It then appears like I am obsessing. My "obsessions" normally last only until I get all the info I feel I need or, at times, all that is available.
Then when decision time comes I've done my research and know what I want. Others are scrambling with their work of the moment when it suddenly hits them that they have to make this huge decision. Then they don't have the energy to give it due consideration and, like you suggest, they might arrive at the goal they've worked toward only to find it's not what they wanted at all.
I've had to burn some bridges and lock some doors. I did my homework as I described and have not yet regretted any of these decisions. There are things that cannot be known at decision time. But the decisions must be made anyway. That is where trust and faith comes in. Not necessarily religious faith, but faith all the same.
I like it the way someone put it: Sometimes you have to jump off the cliff not knowing if there's a planet to land on. I would suggest that before doing that a person leave no stone unturned in researching the situation, in seeking out every last possible alternative. If, after this has been done completely and thoroughly, and the conclusion has been reached that the only viable option is to jump, then the leap of faith will probably get you to a better place.