Thomas, I am very glad you have made this reply to my post as it is an issue that really bothers me, one that I feel is unjust, and I would much rather discuss it with a knowledgable and faithful representative of this view/belief than get into polemics and heated argument.
I will say right off the bat that I am going to be in large agreement with many of your points...except that they are not gremane to this discussion. Birth control applies just as much, more so, to the happily married couple as it does to the promiscuous.
OK. well, you know me Lunamoth, and I personally choose to stay out of these kinds of debate, but perhaps I can shed some light ... so what follows is a 'flipside' response to the situation – I'm not saying its right or wrong, I'm saying it needs factoring in the discussion.
The principle here is do we have the right to take a life that might inconvenience us?
A condom prevents the egg and sperm from coming into contact...if it works no fertilization has taken place. Some other types of birth control combine to kill sperm and block sperm before fertilization, but my understanding is that these are also prohibited. The pill and the IUD, probably some others, actually prevent the implantation of a fertilized egg, so I can understand a bit more of life-ethic issue in that case, but in all honesty, expulsion of a one-day-old fertilized egg does not anywhere near equate with abortion or taking away a life.
Also...the point about being an 'inconvenience' is a red herring. There are real issues related to having too many children beyond inconvenience, a burgeoning global population being among them.
Let's not prevaricate. If sex wasn't fun, then we would treat it as a necessity. But it's pleasurable, and the more we fantasies and invest in it, the more we insist that our sexuality defines our nature ... the more pleasurable it is ... so now sex has a place in culture that's out of all proportion to the reality ... consider the dollars spent on cosmetics ... consider that the porn industry was the driving force behind the massive uptake of the domestic video player that surpassed the makers' wildest expectations ... no ther technology comes close to how fast and how widespread the video boom was, and it was all about porn ... so what we really want is all the fun, with none of the consequence ... I want to bew able to drive my car at 150mph, without getting arrested ... it's the same thing.
I agree that in our culture sex is wildly out of balance with all other aspects of healthy human relationships. I can see a role for the Church/religion, in individually helping bring people/families back into balance in this repsect. But, this is not a birth control issue. It's a sex issue. Next.
We want to be absolved of the responsibility ... and the Church ain't gonna do that ...
No, it is not about being absolved of responsibility. It is about being responsible. It is about not having more kids than we can handle. It is about not risking women's health. It is about responsbile global stewardship.
The fact that we enjoy sex, and therefore insist that we should have the right to enjoy it whenever we wish, with whoever we wish, does not stand up to too close a scutiny ... the fact is we should enjoy it as adults as we impress upon our children ... sex is not something to engage in without a view of the possible consequences ... but birth control is precisely a means of avoiding a certain consequence ... and giving someone the means to avoid consequence does not instil a sense of responsibility.
I am talking about sex between married couples. Not whenever, with whoever...that's a red herring again. Teaching responsibility and consequences to our kids...agree completely.
In marriage, after you've had two, three, four children, there are very good reasons to choose not to have more. Health reasons, financial reasons (although I grant you that we can certainly do without many things that we think we 'need.'). Global responsibility reasons.
What is far more tragic these days, is sexual identity determines the person out of all proportion ... we live in a culture obsessed with sex, image, power and masturbation to such a degree that continence or even celibacy seem 'unatural' ... 'choice' has now nothing to do with it, sex, as an act, is regarded as necessary for a full life ... you have to get the idea in perspective before you can fully debate the issue.
I don't have any disagreement with you. Again, birth control applies to married couples, whether they do not want to have any children or whether they have some and do not want to have more. Should they stop having sex? Should they give all additional babies up for adoption?
Is a married couple using a condom really a sin?
But is it ethical to destroy a life that might interfere with our own comfortability?
Barrier methods like the condom, if they work, prevent fertilization.
More effective methods, like the pill, are not about 'comfort.' They are about responsibility as described above.
How can the choice, in this day and age be, stop having sex (even if you are married), or be prepared to give up your children or raise more than you physically, emotionally, or financially can handle?
Is that really the choice the Cathlic Church would ask us to make?
Yes, and they are the first targets of birth control, pressed on them by the wealthy nations. As long, of course, that there's still enough left to make cheap trainers for us.
Red herring, and strawman (and inflammatory!). I am not talking about forcing anyone to use birth control. I am talking about faithful married couples who do not wish to have more children, who are just as much subject to this 'absolute divine law' as anyone else.
And again, 3rd world countries view birth control as emasculating, and everyone knows sex with a virgin cures HIV ... I don't see removing the burden of responsibility makes for more rfesponsible people.
The availability of birth control, and the removal of any authoritative/religious obstacles to using it, can only help people take responsibility for their lives, especially women.
Yes, and the correlate is overpopulation is a result of poverty. People have big families because most of them die, and possessing nothing of any material worth, their offspring become precious. It has been statistically demonstrated that in those areas where there is a reasonable distribution of wealth and access to resources, the population naturally levels out.
And it has been also shown that where women have been educated and given access to medical help and control over their reproductive health, communities have grown stronger and healthier, with better quality of life for everyone.
'Comfortably' is a dangerous word.
I used comfortably intentionally because I know that in the US and UK, many women I would know could afford financially to have many more children than we do. I know one family who adopted eight children with a three bedroom house and one moderate income. More power to them! Boys in one room, girls in the other...and not much but enough to eat and a lot of love.
But there is more than comfort. There is physcial health. There is mental health. I don't know if you've ever known a woman who has dealt with post-partum depression, but it is a serious condition. It is a hell I would not wish on anyone, and to think of women prone to it going through it over and over seems not only unethical, but immoral. Not every woman is a born nurturer, and not every woman is healthy enough to take care of several children.
Here in the UK we have the highest incidence of teenage pregnancy in Europe. Solution? Put all the kids on the pill.
Not a good solution. But abstinance only sex ed does not work...not when those hormones are pumping in adolescents. A better social network and better self-esteem needed to help kids stay out of trouble like this...absolutely. Community is needed, not instant birth control We agree on this I think...but it's not the point of my objection.
Here in London, in fact in Camden (just down the road) we have the highest incidence of STD in Europe. Solution? Not so easy ...
Why is Britain so different to Europe? Perhaps because we're not so Catholic, perhaps because we have an unhealthy preoccupation with sex. Teenage magazine in Europe are about relationships, in UK it's about the correct techniques for oral sex.
I think rampant teenage pregnancy, queses outside abortion clinics and widespread STD are not good exemplars of 'loving kindness' so much as self-gratification...
Again...not what I am addressing. Availability of birth control does not cause these problems, nor does it solve them.
Let's not kid ourselves. 2,000 years ago, people had babies and threw away the ones they didn't want. Nothing's changed, now we've developed more discreet and hygenic means of throwing them away, that's all.
Thomas
Wrong wrong wrong. If you can't see any difference between a fertilized (or even unfertilized) egg and a birthed baby...shame on you!
So much for staying away from polemics.