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Embracing the Mystery
It is about people, not space.
Have to agree, Q. Yeah, in the States the cities are more impersonal, but only in certain areas (mostly white middle class and above). You go to some of the poor neighborhoods, and often you'll still see a neighborly attitude. Go to the ethnic enclaves, and you see it even more. It just depends on the culture of the neighborhood and so forth. Yes, space can impact it (well, more like the built environment than population) but it isn't the problem.
I found that just riding on a commuter train causes people to forge relationships and look after each other more. People let others know when they drop/leave something. They swap information and ideas. They pull out pictures of the kids or the latest vacation. People just need to be in a "safe" space, however that is defined and met, so that they can relax enough to share and care.
I think we're on the verge of a revolution. More and more people are changing what they see success to be, what they want out of life. I think we're nearing the end of a "me" culture. Now, whether that will happen as a majority movement before something forces it... that's another question. We're getting pretty darn close to just plain running out of a lot of important stuff. We may well end up forced back to that rural family farm lifestyle. Unfortunately, there is practically no way this will happen without a whole lot of problems and probably a fair number of deaths. Most of the sociologists and anthropologists I know are holding their breath at the big natural experiment, and at the same time, pretty worried about it.
Something's gotta give...