Dates with Destiny?

It is easy to fit meaning to what is not destiny but a retrospective.
 
Alex P said:
Just curious, anyone ever met someone and thought, I was meant to meet you?
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That may be more a feeling people have than a reality.. sort of like our mind selecting events and concluding things after the fact..

Maybe like Deja Vu or saying something like I knew you were going to call or I knew I was going to see you as a subjective feeling. Our mind I think does this based on selective interpretation..also "falling" in love..beginning a relationship it helps us to think it was all meant to be..

- Art
 
arthra said:
That may be more a feeling people have than a reality.. sort of like our mind selecting events and concluding things after the fact..

Maybe like Deja Vu or saying something like I knew you were going to call or I knew I was going to see you as a subjective feeling. Our mind I think does this based on selective interpretation..also "falling" in love..beginning a relationship it helps us to think it was all meant to be..

- Art
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I guess this is how it works but people meeting other people play a significant part of people lives. Other people contribute to your life journey and can change the the course in a way God intends.
 
Speaking of Destiny, don't forget to brush those pearly whites. The gum line is no respecter of persons. Also, there is a right way and a wrong way to brush, and some foods are destructive to your teeth. Up through your 20s your teeth may seem tough but Destiny is coming so be prepared. You don't plan to live that long? Your teeth do, just so they can take revenge. Brush!
 
wil said:
In the 70's it was a standard pick up line came right after 'what's your sign'... that or I've got coke.
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Alex P said:
LULZ!!! Ugh and another one I can't give you a thumbs up for... I should spread reputation faster :/
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I would do it for us but I'm in same boat. I think the voting system must be broken....
 
I did it for all of us. LOL :D

By the way, while I acknowledge the retrospective angle here, my own experience is that it's a different feeling than the "this was meant to be" feeling.

Retrospectively, I see the purpose behind meeting this or that person all the time.

In the case of my husband, it was a very definitive feeling of "Oh, THERE you are!" And yeah, I fell in love with the guy but even when we were separated and on our way to divorce-ville (which we escaped) I still had the feeling that he was a person I knew before and with whom I was destined to reaquaint myself. The romantic love is great, but that isn't the point to me. The destined purpose is something different. It was just a bonus that we found each other attractive and fell in love. :D
 
citizenzen said:
Dondi sees these coincidences as proof of God.

I see these coincidences as coincidences.

Randomness can be a beautiful thing.
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I don't need coincidences for my own subjective 'proof' of God. I have that in the relationship that I have with Him. I simple see providence in how we came together under the circumstances we were in. I'd be happy to tell you if requested.
 
path_of_one said:
I did it for all of us. LOL :D

By the way, while I acknowledge the retrospective angle here, my own experience is that it's a different feeling than the "this was meant to be" feeling.

Retrospectively, I see the purpose behind meeting this or that person all the time.

In the case of my husband, it was a very definitive feeling of "Oh, THERE you are!" And yeah, I fell in love with the guy but even when we were separated and on our way to divorce-ville (which we escaped) I still had the feeling that he was a person I knew before and with whom I was destined to reaquaint myself. The romantic love is great, but that isn't the point to me. The destined purpose is something different. It was just a bonus that we found each other attractive and fell in love. :D
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I can agree to all of that.....but we no matter how we 'feel' when we analyse it carefully it all falls short of provable. I felt the same way about both my long relationships with women and with two male friends too.

To be honest I am in a bit of a mess mentally at the moment. I find it pretty easy to slip back into seeing patterns where there are probably none. For example in typing the above paragraph I was reminded of one of those friends. He died about 10 years ago. In somewhat an unusual way. He fell to his death when a scaffold collapsed when he was working on the Severn bridge, one of the UK's biggest suspension bridges. I found this out when instead of throwing out a newspaper I had not had time to read, and had been lying around for weeks, I opened it at a random page and read the few lines that reported the incident. I never read anything more just that. A subsequent phone call to Wales confirmed it was him. I do not usually have papers lying around.... and I could make all sorts of speculations. But they are meaningless and untestable. But then I am reminded of number theory and how randomness and apparent disorder seems to have its own need to make patterns.

At the end of the day these 'feelings' help cement and give purpose to your mutual path. They do no harm as an occasional thought or curiosity. But they can become obsessive, and there there can be danger.
 
path_of_one said:
I believe I was meant to meet my husband. Meeting him was not like meeting a person I didn't know; it was like becoming reacquainted with a very old and dear friend. I think I've relayed the story somewhere on the board before- it's fairly romantic and spiffy, I think. :) We met on a blind date... a blind date of me and some other guy. :p

I have a fairly complicated view of why I was meant to meet him, but even if I'm wrong, our "date with destiny" makes for a great story. I will say that it has not made marriage any easier or made it so we don't make mistakes and have to learn, but there is a purpose behind our marriage that I feel I would not have if I didn't feel that our destinies are entwined.

As for other people, I feel that most people I meet, if I am open to it, are opportunities for my and their spiritual growth. I suppose I think destiny is all around us, if we are open to it. But that sort of thing is quite distinctive from what I felt upon meeting my husband- a sort of "Wow, have we been gone for a long time- hello again!" feeling that I've never recaptured with anyone else. I have fallen in love with other people, and it is a very different thought/feeling. It is also distinct from the sort of synchronicity that I think operates in the universe and brings me certain people I need to interact with at certain times. It was very distinct and, so far in my life, unique.

Now what will really blow my mind is if we have kids one day and I have the same feeling-- that I have known them for eons. But I don't expect it. I expect to be delighted, but to feel like it is a little being I have not known before.
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The only relationship where I've wondered if we'd traveled together in a life before is with a "little one." Story is much too complicated and unnecessary to go into detail but suffice it so say that, as were expecting our first grandchild, I had no enthusiasm for the prospect. But from the moment he was born I have an intense deep connection to him and he has to me-as much as he does to any of his parents. When this sort of inexplicably deep mutual degree of connection occurs right from birth, it does make one wonder. The little lad is now 10. earl
 
Tao_Equus said:
I can agree to all of that.....but we no matter how we 'feel' when we analyse it carefully it all falls short of provable.
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There's a lot in life that does, and I find it worthless to over-analyze stuff I know isn't amenable to that type of inquiry. I base a lot of my decision-making on intuition and emotion, and it seems to work out fine. I'm all the way 'round happier when I am balanced between emotionality and reason, not tipping too much one way or the other. :)

To be honest I am in a bit of a mess mentally at the moment. I find it pretty easy to slip back into seeing patterns where there are probably none.
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Why is that a problem? Why not just accept you for you and enjoy life? For whatever reason, with each passing year I care less and less in my personal life about whether my thoughts and observations are accurate, and care more and more if they are useful and/or enjoyable. I find that seeing patterns is useful (of course it is, or our brains wouldn't strive so naturally to do it), so why bother trying not to see them?

Now, in my professional life, that is another story... but I have no problems not blending the two very much.

Interestingly, I do not find the answer to obsession with patterns to be rational analysis. The two go hand in hand for me. My tendency to look for patterns is tied to my profession, which demands reason (though I confess, my intuition often leads me first toward hypotheses, which I can then attempt to prove or disprove scientifically). So, looking for patterns is both an intuitive and a rational response for me. The only way out is to stop analyzing altogether sometimes and just BE.
 
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