Selfishness is part of love

[Thomas]

I think this is one of those discussions where common sense wins out over (over-)complicated philosophical argument ... ?

A definition of 'selfishness' —
"Selfishness denotes an excessive or exclusive concern with oneself; and as such it exceeds mere self interest or self concern. In that it necessarily connotes a disregard for others, it is beyond the act of placing one's own needs or desires above the needs or desires of others (self interest)."

Selfishness does not actually care about the other, and the other is usually pretty adept at picking up what is, in effect, an absence of signal...

... we can discuss it endlessly, but when we experience it, we do know the difference.

Thomas

 

[Snoopy]

hi, l've missed you all. been kinda selfish [and hated myself for it]..but its reasonable to say, in essence, that l really do LOVE YOU ALL
xxx

I'm impressed by the self-less act of dragging your-self to a keyboard through all this snow.

s.

 

[c0de]

I think this is one of those discussions where common sense wins out over (over-)complicated philosophical argument ... ?

"common" and "sense" ....

2 words i hate, even individually

.. Seeing them put together makes me wanna have an epileptic seizure !

 

[Gatekeeper]

Love is not selfish at all, but it is beneficial. Selfishness suggests that it is all about self and nothing of another. Just because there are benefits to extending love towards others, doesn't mean that love is selfish, but rather it means that love is wise for all involved.

 

[Thomas]

"common" and "sense" ....

2 words i hate, even individually

.. Seeing them put together makes me wanna have an epileptic seizure !

Why?

(Another thread, perhaps)

Thomas

 

[c0de]

(Another thread, perhaps)

im sure this one of yours will do: http://www.interfaith.org/forum/notes-from-a-browned-off-13383.html#post236034

; )

 

[Bhaktajan II]

come on dude, admit it, you know it is.

Only God is capable of true love and unselfishness.

Humans just... do it for the cake.

I believe the above quote is a fact of life.

I believe God is a Persona; I believe we must be like our father in heaven; I believe ettiquette must be cultvated so as to obtain grace to enter heaven. I believe those are the facts of life.

 

[Lunitik]

What is wrong with selfishness when there is no self?

Love should be as a fragrance that makes all events more beautiful.

In oneness, self is not there, selfishness has a new meaning now.

This is how compassion arises, you want to share that all is more beautiful.