Namaste Luecy, thanx for the response.
But is that right? are they mutually inclusive?
But this was not what Rumi was saying was it?
beyond right doing and wrong doing....a place of one or not two...
a place of no judgement....
where there is no blame...no judgement...there is nothing to forgive...
but love is there...
that would be a location of unconditional love would it not?
I would say that truly unconditional love is evil. Love is conditional based either on what the loving person wants or views as good, and/or based on what the recipient of the love wants or views as good. I appreciate what the expression is intended to mean, but you then cast a darkness calling it a place of no judgment.
I have worked closely with a few individuals who repeatedly failed to apply judgment towards their actions, had no interest in judging their past, had little interest in seeking the approval of others, and did not take responsibility for their actions. Evil, destructive, irresponsible mayhem is how I would describe their behavior. You can call that love if you wish, but it is not a pleasure to be around it. It takes love, including judgment, to help an individual like that. A person who does not value judgment is a very unpleasant beast.
The person who provided their judgment overcame the most. It is easier for a person to judge the actions of someone else than to judge their own. Even if the judgment appears dishonest or hypocritical, it still provides a framework to work with. All you do then is relate their actions to what they express seeing in others. I cannot think of any relationship, most especially with God, that does not involve judgment, and the sharing of that judgment.
I think as you are calling for unconditional love, you are calling for love that is always conditioned by what the other person wants, rather than any self imposed conditions. The irony of that can be evil as you call for 'no judgment'. From my viewpoint, you are saying that you want a place that gives to you unconditionally what you want, and you want others to give to you unconditionally, and you may even claim to somehow be a person who gives unconditionally. I view that as a condition, because it is conditional on what the recipient wants. The right and wrong aspect is still there, but all judgment and conditions could be ignored too, and then I'd have to call it sheer evil. Judgment is something to give, and judgment is something to receive, and I am very thankful to those who do both, rather than those who do neither. I think it is wise to view judgment as a gift, even if it is hateful or unjust, it is a starting point to work with.
If unconditional love means giving to someone without judgment or condition, then who defines the love? I will still call it conditional love, because it is conditional by what the recipient, the beggar, wants. Unconditionally giving to what the beggar wants is conditional on the beggar's definition of love. Love to one person might be sex, a box of chocolates, money, a lifetime of devotion, forgiveness, grace, etc... Love is either conditional by the recipient, or by the person providing it, or if it is truly a place with zero judgment: then neither.
People often ask for what they don't need, and do not want what they truly do need. The beggar on the side of the road wants money, and money is the last thing that the beggar needs. So you do a little bit of both. Give the beggar a little of what he wants, and give the beggar a little something that he did not expect, or that he did not want, but that might actually help him. Seek the beggar's judgment, and provide him yours. The beggar judges that money is what he needs. Whether his judgment or yours, the judgment is there. Or, would you rather turn a blind eye, to a place of no judgment, and calling that a place of love?