OK, Steve, what I am going to do is include here a brief synopsis from my dissertation. Incidentally, the latter was published as a book through a legit university press. I don't mean to toot my own horn. I'm just trying to show I'm legit . Let me know if this material helps. I put it together pretty fast, had to leave out key material, so you may have some further questions.
To provide some relevant background, most Christians assume there is only one model of God, one official picture of what God is like in his own nature. At present, that is definitely not true. There are at least two, classical theism and neo-classical theism, also termed process theology. Most Christians assume the traditional Christian model of God (classical theism) came directly out to the pages of Scripture. Absolutely not true. Let's go way back in history for a moment. The Greeks had a real appetite for metaphysics, for inquiring into what is the basic structure of reality. Is it all mind? Matter? It it changeable? In contrast, metaphysics was of little or no interest to the ancient Hebrews. The Bible, for example, tells us very little of how God is actually built. Is God all immaterial? Material? What? As the church worked its way up into the educated classes of the Greco-Roman world, it had to provide some kind of metaphysical system and level of discussion in order to survive. So the church fathers freely incorporated Hellenic concepts into their description of God. Although there were many different schools of Hellenic philosophy, the Greeks as a whole had real trouble wit the physical world of time, change,relativity, and matter. More than one major school argued that change in any form, most especially movement, was a logical impossibility and therefore does not exist. Plato was a dominant force here, arguing that the world of time and change is just a big illusion and the major source of all suffering and evil. The truly divine, “the really real,” was a wholly immaterial world of static perfection, totally immutable, wholly simple, wholly detached form the evil world of time and change.
Once these Hellenic notions were incorporated into Christianity, God was defined as void of body, parts, passions, compassion, wholly immutable, omnipotent, without even the shadow of motion, the supreme cause, never the effect. I am listing almost verbatim here the description form the major creeds, such as the Westminster Confession, and the writings of the major church fathers, such as Augustine, Anselm, Aquinas, etc. Granted, they spoke of God's love, but it was a totally cold, unemotional love. Both Anselm and Aquinas insisted that although God might seem to us to be compassionate, he defiantly is not, in his own nature. Since God has no passion (emotion), then he could have no compassion, either. Unlike human love, God's love was totally minus any sympathy or empathy. God could have no emotion, because emotions are changes in bodily state, and God does not have a body and God does not change. Not to suffer is better than to suffer; hence, God, as the most perfect being, was wholly incapable of suffering, or experiencing any other negative emotion. Suggesting in any way the the Father suffered was ruled out as a major heresy.
In the 20-century, this model began to be seriously questioned. If it is true that finite, creaturely attributes cannot be describe to God, then we can say only what God is not, not what God is, a point recognized by the classical theists themselves. Therefore, God emerges as an undefined blank. But who can believe in just an undefined X? If we don't give God some content, the whole concept of God is meaningless. And then much of Scripture is also meaningless, as Scripture provides an essentially anthropomorphic image of God as having genuine emotion, capable of change, and implies, in many places, that God is a physical being, by assigning just about every body part to God. Such projection is not the problem, it is the solution. All knowing is analogous knowing; we must generalize from the unfamiliar to the familiar. Now, if there is one sphere of reality we are most familiar with, it is human existence. Hence, unless there is some genuine likeness, some genuine analogy between ourselves and the rest of reality, and this most especially includes God, we haven't even but one clue as to what is going on. Furthermore, the classical model appears to represent a very lopsided view of perfection. It is as if the church fathers went down a list of seemingly contrary adjectives, such as being vs. becoming, cause vs. effect, indifference vs. sensitivity, cause vs. effect, static vs. dynamic , etc., and assigned only side to God, the side agreeing with their Hellenic concepts of perfection. But all of our experience teaches us that no actual being can be described with reference to only one side or pole here. Also, each side can be shown to be a perfection. If it is a virtue to say full speed ahead and damn the torpedoes, it is also a virtue to be deeply moved and and affected by the feelings of others. Furthermore, the classical model does not seem at all compatible with a God of love. Love means at a minimum to emphatically share in the feelings of others and also to derive part of the content of your being, from them. At best, the classical model presents a picture of God as a Ruthless Moralist, Ruling Caesar, and Unmoved Mover. Also, it seems incompatible with out modern understanding of realty, the really real, as in a constant state of flux and also relativistic,where entities are not ever solitary, but emerge out of their relationships with others. The Greeks enshrined the values of the immune and the immutable, and this also is in question. Why should it be seen as a weakness that we have needs? Why should God be seen as weak if he or she also has needs? What's wrong with God experiencing genuine pain and suffering? How can anyone other than a suffering God help? If God can't change in any way whatsoever, then saint or sinner, it's all the same to God,who remains blissfully indifferent to the world. But who can put any real faith in an indifferent Deity? If God could be just as happy,whole, and complete without a universe as with one,then why did he bother to create one and how is it to have any real significance in the life of God, when it contributes absolutely nothing to him?
The result was a new model of God in which God and the universe are mutually interrelated. God grows as the world goes. God is the supreme effect as well as cause. My favorite metaphor here is that the universe is the body of God. I can't find any other that does justice to God's radical sensitivity to all things. There is a direct, immediate flow of all creaturely feelings into God, and a direct, immediate flow of God's feelings into creatures. Hence, God radically transcends us, as we are total strangers to the empathic responsiveness exhibited by God. Now, there is much more to say here, but I feel I should stop for now. If you have any questions, feel free to ask.