The Islamic Concept of a Family

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Islam takes family as a divine institution with marriage as its nucleus. A human being is born with a father and a mother to protect the being and bring it up. When this child grows up, it understands the importance of life and then is joined by a person to expand his family. The people who collectively build up the pillars of the family or husband, wife and the children. These people came under relations like parents and siblings.
 
Can I ask what your motivation is for detailing this. The family model in Islam is pretty much the same as any other faith. Maybe a slight difference when we jump into topics of orphans and adoptions, but overall the same.
 
BigJoeNobody said:
Can I ask what your motivation is for detailing this. The family model in Islam is pretty much the same as any other faith. Maybe a slight difference when we jump into topics of orphans and adoptions, but overall the same.
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That's my question, too.
 
BigJoeNobody said:
Can I ask what your motivation is for detailing this. The family model in Islam is pretty much the same as any other faith. Maybe a slight difference when we jump into topics of orphans and adoptions, but overall the same.
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salaam brother!

I think it may be because the concept of family being a 'divine institution' is fast disappearing in the west; half of the people in USA for example are of illegitimate birth and all around the west marriage is being considered as noting but a 'peace of paper'

in hadith it says that the chrisitan army's that will fight the last battle against the muslims will all be the children of zina [fornication] so it seems that the concept of marriage will erode much further until every child in west soon becomes a illigitmate child :(
 
Devils' Advocate said:
Half of the people born in the US are illegitimate????? I want to see the proof for that one. Though I think perhaps you are using the term illegitimate from some religious stand point rather than the legal one.
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yup from a religious standpoint ..

I heard this from a western/Islamic Scholar [Shaykh Hamza Yusuf] many years ago

The collapse of family life: Most children in U.S. born out of wedlock

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More than half of births to American women younger than 30 are outside marriage, research has found.
And across all ages, a staggering four in ten women are not married when they have children.
The data shows the fastest growth in the past 20 years is among white women in their 20s with some college education but no four-year degree.
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Shifting priorities: More than half of births to American women under the age of 30 occur outside marriage, research has found
And with two-thirds of children in the U.S. born to mothers under the age of 30, it appears the majority of births across the country are out of wedlock.
The data was compiled by Child Trends, a Washington research group that analysed government data, and reported by the New York Times.
The paper reported that most college graduates marry before they have children, suggesting family structure is becoming a new class divide.


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even in UK it's getting to 50%:

Most children will be born out of wedlock by 2016
Most children will be born out of wedlock within three years because of the decline in marriage, according to official figures.
By Steven Swinford, Senior Political Correspondent

The proportion of children born to unmarried mothers hit a record 47.5 per cent last year, according to the Office for National Statistics. The figure has risen from 25 per cent in 1988 and just 11 per cent in 1979.
If the trend continues at the current rate, the majority of children will be born to parents who are not married by 2016.
Conservative MPs and experts warned that the stark decline of marriage is likely to lead to more family breakdowns and damage children's prospects.
Tim Loughton, the former Children's minister, called on the government to introduce tax breaks for married couples to help stop the decline. He said: "If people are prepared to make a public declaration to each other in front of their friends and family they are more likely to stay together. Without marriage people drift in and out of relationships very easily.
"In families where parents break up children do less well at school, are more likely to suffer mental health problems and are more likely to have substance abuse problems.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/pol...dren-will-be-born-out-of-wedlock-by-2016.html
 
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I do not disagree with the statistics you have shown. I do have some issues with the concept that all of these problems are the result of being born out of wedlock. The real problem is so much bigger than whether two parents are present or not. Suggesting that being born to a single parent is the most important factor in kids losing ground is wrong. It is 'a' factor of course - it is one of the factors. Not the most relevant. Not even close.

There isn't the time right now for me to go any deeper into an answer than that. I did want to acknowledge that I read your posts and will respond more fully when I can.
 
Not sure about the statistics you have brought forth Ahmed, but I understand the issue of non-complete families. I also agree that the western world has eroded the view of marriage into something more of a burden than a partnership. That being said, DA is right that is only 1 issue with the "kids losing ground" issues. I'm not sure exactly the extent, but IMO the issues are a result of many degradations in the moral makeup, and that is not entirely limited to the west. The Far East has seen issues with this for a while now as well. The Middle East is also finding more and more reformist views. As Allah warns us not to walk in the footsteps of Shaytan, the issues are usually because of a combination of many problems, corruption breeds greed, and greed breeds problems.
 
The vast majority of those that commit crimes and atrocities were born from married parents... wouldn't hurt to try another way.

A young man just shot 100 people.... would he have shot two hundred if he was illegitimate?
 
Devils' Advocate said:
I do not disagree with the statistics you have shown. I do have some issues with the concept that all of these problems are the result of being born out of wedlock. The real problem is so much bigger than whether two parents are present or not. Suggesting that being born to a single parent is the most important factor in kids losing ground is wrong. It is 'a' factor of course - it is one of the factors. Not the most relevant. Not even close.

There isn't the time right now for me to go any deeper into an answer than that. I did want to acknowledge that I read your posts and will respond more fully when I can.
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Islam however holds marriage to be very important for the right upbringing of children; it is more of a metaphysical view that it holds that marriage brings peace and tranquility to children too or otherwise children become aggressive, full of rage and perturbed in their lives and I think there is evidence of this now in the west; just look at all the aggressive crime by teenagers, and not respecting their teachers etc and the massacres we see; columbine etc ... children these days are full of rage!
 
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wil said:
The vast majority of those that commit crimes and atrocities were born from married parents... wouldn't hurt to try another way.

A young man just shot 100 people.... would he have shot two hundred if he was illegitimate?
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the west drove him nuts; they're bombing his country Afghanistan and they almost turned him into a gay ... think that was his 'repentence' to God :rolleyes:; the fool ... oh well now that he's dead, may God forgive him amen!

hahaha that was just a joke post guys; there is no justification whatsoever for killing civilians!
 
BigJoeNobody said:
Not sure about the statistics you have brought forth Ahmed, but I understand the issue of non-complete families. I also agree that the western world has eroded the view of marriage into something more of a burden than a partnership. That being said, DA is right that is only 1 issue with the "kids losing ground" issues. I'm not sure exactly the extent, but IMO the issues are a result of many degradations in the moral makeup, and that is not entirely limited to the west. The Far East has seen issues with this for a while now as well. The Middle East is also finding more and more reformist views. As Allah warns us not to walk in the footsteps of Shaytan, the issues are usually because of a combination of many problems, corruption breeds greed, and greed breeds problems.
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you are right brother, there are many issues for kids turning bad; I listened to a speech by shaykh hamza Yusuf however saying basically what I said in my reply to devils advocate; he explains it really nice; it's worth a listen! ;);

[its within first 15 mins]

 
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