Vasu Devan
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That is noble certainly but i love of the self is the highest and most important love, imo. If we cannot love the self, we cannot believe in loving others also. Religious and ascetic paths often proclaim devotion to others but practice mostly on getting themselves closer to their God via conversion of others to their faith rather than genuinely aiding by solution of others' problems.This is because the journey of this life is not about self. There are certain aspects where we need to be self serving, but this is only in order to be a servant to all humanity, starting with family, friends and community.
In a world where good is our choice, no one will be without the basic necessities of life, shelter, water, food and work.
In a world where self serving goals are pursued, well that world is now.
Self-hate and depression are rampant in the world now, among those judging themselves either holy, carnal or apathetic. Loving the self doesn't mean automatically denying love of others. That is narcissism, not self-love. Self-love, for me at least, means finding reasons, in whatever form, to keep the self being in this reality regardless of the forms it changes into.i.e.learning to accept what is being regardless of what is being.
That does not necessarily always mean passive acceptance. We are free to actively change the forms we see in our conscious reality. But when I have acted based on resisting the fear/anger that manifest via various sources, it has only worsened the situation. Do not flee the source of those emotions the brain cannot stand. Nor seek to destroy it. That is the brain's animal flight-or-fight response. Retrain it to face those emotions within and we can face the causes of them without running from or attacking them.
Before we can apply it externally though, we have to manage it internally. That is what the meditative path means for me at least. That is what enjoying material pleasures like candy and streaming content when they are available mean for me without separation from what is being when they are not. When we can find ways to change the darkness of our reality, we may find ways to teach others the same. It is one thing to teach another your faith as a path to solace from the pain. Is it truly another to offer them cost-free paths to material pleasures as another path?
We are all animals in my mind. My default reaction to threats, present or imagined is always flight-or-fight. The choice is usually based of comparison of mental/physical strength. But we are possibly the only animals able to mentally posit a different reality than the presently experienced one and find ways to realize it in now. Imagination is both curse and blessing. I know when I am running, destroying or facing forms I dislike in the present. Facing without automatic fight/flight is what self love means for me anyway.
Another might see self love differently. That is fine too. I should only care about changing my reality. Changing another's, when it is against their will, is something I interpret as fighting. Leaving another's field of awareness when they want me to stay because I dislike what they are being is running away. There is no pure/perfect absolute path. Just like 'change is the only constant', 'the only absolute is relativity' is another truth I see of the universe we share. As those statements themselves indicate, we cannot get rid of any complement or opposite fully to manifest the other. Purity is an illusion. Accepting all means accepting darkness too along with light.