awkward...

Buying/wanting more than u need is an impulse felt by almost everyone.my thing is cosmetics.others it might b shoes/bags/clothes etc.
 
shazni said:
It's called I can't b bothered.n my phone has predictive self correcting text.n when it doesn't correct it I leave it....no struggle.this is not an English class.
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No you are correct. This is not an English class... It is however a discussion forum. And if you'd like folks to read your posts and understand what you are saying, the easiest way is to communicate with others is to utilize a standard system that everyone uses.

however this is your choice...

Either way, welcome aboard.
 
Shaz,

Try an experiment. See a cosmetic you want to buy, but don't buy it. Take the money you would have spent, and donate it to charity. Then come here and tell us how it felt. (You might be surprised.)
 
I knew someone would say something like that...predictable. I'm going shopping tomorrow. For those of you who know the place, its Manchester Arndale shopping centre. Arghhhhhhhhh! Friends hen do tonight. So got to buy some stuff...
 
Hi, Shaz, I teach English at a college in China.

What about you? What's your day job?

When you feel the urge to do some impulse buying, ask yourself:

"Do I want this?" (yes)

"Do I need this?" (no)
 
Haha I already do that. I have to love something to buy it. Most of the time I don't need it. But I want it so bad that I would buy it n then put it away n never see if again.

I am a legal drug dealer, also known as a pharmacist.
 
shazni said:
I knew someone would say something like that...predictable. I'm going shopping tomorrow. For those of you who know the place, its Manchester Arndale shopping centre. Arghhhhhhhhh! Friends hen do tonight. So got to buy some stuff...
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I don't know if impulse buying is primarily a feminine phenomenon. Is it mostly women who undergo retail therapy? I can't tell if you're a woman.

But to show that I'm not trying to stereotype males and females, I will tell you now that I'm male and I engaged in a kind of "impulse buying" recently when I was suffering from mental illness.

I would walk into a supermarket and feel like I had to "spend" or "buy" something. I don't know why. Maybe I thought it would be rude to not buy something when I was already in the store. Ok, so why did I even go into the store? It's because I was unemployed, spent most of my time at home recovering from my mental illness and when I did go out, I felt guilty about not doing something constructive when I went out for a walk. I believed I needed to "do something," so I went to the shopping centre and once I got to the shopping centre, I felt an urge to walk into the supermarket. That's how I got into that situation.

I would go to the supermarket whenever I went out on these "walks," and buy loads of snacks and junk food. Whenever I walked into a computer store, I would feel like I had to buy a computer. Whenever I walked into a store selling computer games, I felt like I had to buy one of those games. If I added items on eBay to my watch lists, I felt like I needed to eventually make a bid in an auction or buy something. I hated the idea that anything I did was a waste of time.

I'm mostly back to normal now and I have been able to cut out on the impulsive and compulsive buying.

I have accumulated a substantial amount of junk at home. I have at least five desktop computers, three laptops, two netbooks and one iMac. I have about ten internal hard drives that are just lying outside the computers. I have three portable 500GB hard drives that are half empty. I am not a collector. I just couldn't help myself. I wanted more stuff.:eek:

I wanted to watch every single TV show I knew or heard of -- Stargate SG-1/Atlantis, Star Trek, Firefly, Dollhouse, Rome, Battlestar Galactica, TSCC. I started asking people if I could copy their videos. Now that I'm mostly back to normal, I've lost interest in this stuff.

Based on my experience, compulsive or impulsive buying may be a sign of mental illness. If you are experiencing this behaviour, you may need to get counselling.:)

Maybe you're overworked and burnt out and are starting to suffer depression. You find it difficult to experience pleasure and satisfaction and that's why you feel the urge to buy so much. Have you got kids? Are you a parent? Maybe you need to quit your job and have a long holiday. Stop working, stop studying and take a long break.

Maybe your spouse can let you off the hook for a while. You can go on strike and not do housework. If your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend is nice you may be absolved of your domestic obligations.
 
Hmmm interesting. Well I don't think I'm depressed. I know clinical depression n I don't fit the profile. I do not have a mental illness otherwise I couldn't hold down the type of job that I do. I am stressed at work but who isn't? I am a woman so I think that's the only other explanation. I just like makeup. All the different colours n products. U would probably expect me to cake my face to resemble crusty the clown but I don't. It's just what it is. Like I said I think a little impulsive"ness" is healthy. I'm not in debt cos of it nor is my relationship in jeopardy. I'm normal.
 
Hey tell me...here I'm England, over half the population is on anti-depressants. It's like am Willy Wonka n all the kids come in with their tokens for Prozac flavoured smarties. Is it like that in the US?
 
I haven't seen any stats on the percentage, I'll ask my daughter if she has seen any numbers on it, she is studying at the University of Austin for her Phd in psych, I'm sure she has some friends in the statistical analysis of depression. It is sad so many people suffer from depression, it can be a severe disease. I understand that women who suffer from depression for a long time actually have a smaller Hippocampus as a result. Further studies show that the drugs can prevent the brain damage from happening.
 
U know doctors put anyone who feels slightly on the low side on anti-deps. It's mad. The youngest I've seen was only 12years old. Surely kids of that age shouldn't know what depression is let alone suffer from it. However I shouldn't be surprised as conditions like anorexia and bulimia nervosa become more apparent in kids as young as 8!!!!
 
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