No? There is no question?
Oh, there is a question.
Then if I go to heaven what do I find there?
I do not know, but I would speculate you would find the 'person' of your grandma, without all the external contingent material phenomena, so it would be soul-to-soul experience of the other, rather than body-to-body, with the proviso that you know your grandma as more than just a body ... I remember looking at my dad after he had died and thinking, "He's not there/That's not him" — I mean, for the sake of the death certificate, that was the body of my father, but my father was no longer there, if you get me?
Having said that, how a (human) spiritual being appears to another (human) spiritual being is something to ponder ... but I might suggest the individual soul would represent itself in/as some form... the quote below is from Jean Borella ...
... It is in fact through the body that we are present in a world of bodies. However, this presence, of which we believe ourselves to be the masters since it is somehow identified with us, is in reality a passive and involuntary presence. It was Merleau-Ponty who showed, in The Phenomenology of Perception ... it (the body) can do nothing but offer itself to our gaze, it can do nothing but be seen.
... What happens then, to the contrary, in the Resurrection of Christ? ... Christ's body is still the instrument of presence in the world of bodies, but, by a total change, it is no longer of the essence of this presence to be passive and involuntary. The soul which inhabits this instrument is entirely master of it and makes use of it at will. Christ can actualize the corporeal mode of His presence according to His own decision and as He judges good. The relationship that He entertains with the corporeal medium of His presence has been completely transformed ... Christ is no longer seen, He causes Himself to be seen. This is exactly what the Gospels teach... (Jean Borella, Gnosis and Anti-Christian Gnosis, highlights mine)
Then we shall see clearly, and not in part, as if reflected in a mirror or the eye (cf 1 Corinthians 13:12) "but then I shall know even as I am known" (13:12 again), "We know, that, when he shall appear, we shall be like to him: because we shall see him as he is" (1 John 3:2).
My 99 year old cancer ridden grandma in the flesh?
Some might present themselves so, as an exemplar of courage, endurance, and so forth, much in the same way that Christ's body was reconstituted to be that body prior to the Passion, yet still bore the stigmata as a symbol, but did not go in for the full technicolour ruin that was taken down off the cross. (And re. the excerpt quoted above, explains why Mary M did not recognise Him in the garden, until He revealed Himself to her.)
... or her as the 19 year old my grandfather married (a person I would not recognize?).
Or perhaps, why only the one face? Why not multiple appearances of the same essential person, so each would see the person they know and love, as if each was projecting the image carried in his/her heart ... now that came straight off the keyboard and that is something I need to consider ...
Same in hell...who am I there? Physically mentally?
Spiritually, a person dwindling into extinction like a burnt-out star. I do not go in for medieval images of the eschaton ...
Why not the same question?
Because the question doesn't arise in the Christian Tradition.
In Buddhism there is not soul, so I cannot see what 'goes on' if everything that constitutes
this person is ephemeral and illusory.
In Hinduism there is soul, but it is a universal, as far as I can make out, prior to and higher than the individual person, who again seems to be a conglomerate of contingent experience.
In the Abrahamics, the soul is the person, the person is his/her soul, so in that sense the question 'who/what' is answered...
Sometimes I think you've got a knee jerk reaction to simply disagree with me...
I'm sorry, and perhaps at times I do, but I do rather feel your posts often come from 'left field' and the trying to pin down exactly what you mean proves to be a quest for the elusive ... so rather than guess what the question meant, I thought I'd offer a short-hand response and see where that got me?
