Assalam u alaikum wa rahmatulahi wa baakatuhu,
I agree.. That is what I am saying.... If I dared call you a stupid idiot... That would be very mean, it would insult and hurt.... Specially if I meant it... But, what if I had nooooooo idea what it meant, or I really had no understanding of it being quite a powerful name... Then I can see that as not totally fault of the sayer, and we must teach one another.... If I continued to call you this after I was aware of the meaning, then yes... So that is why I meant intent.....
Sticks and stones may break my bones... But words will only teach you.
Ma salama...