I don't believe anyone consciously decided in jr high or high school that they wish to be ostracized, abused and rediculed the rest of their lives...yeah...it is a choice, if that is your belief.
The only gay person I know well, the brother of a close friend of mine, fits this description.
He dresses in a suit & tie everyday and has a successful career. Very intelligent and handsome. Looking at him or talking with him, you would have no idea he is gay. Single women throw themselves at him. But he's not interested in women, never has been.
His dad and grandpa (conservative Christians) basically disowned him for being gay, after trying for years to talk him into "curing himself" of his homosexuality. His last long-term partner, who was in the military, refused to have an openly gay relationship (out of fear of losing his job, this was in the "don't ask, don't tell era), and their relationship fell apart as my friend's brother didn't want to hide his sexuality from society any longer.
He has told me he wishes he wasn't gay as it's very difficult to endure such discrimination and hate at the hands of many heterosexual members of society. But he is attracted to males and not all the attractive females who also wish he wasn't gay. And he feels that forcing himself into a heterosexual relationship, getting married and having kids, just to fit society's expectations of him, would be unfair to all involved.
For those that think homosexuals are not "born gay" but instead "choose" such a lifestyle, why do you think someone would "choose" such a difficult path in life?
I personally think many heterosexuals, particularly those that hold a literal view of the bible, don't want to consider that their God would create a person in such a way; this is a very uncomfortable thought for them. Much easier to just say gays choose that lifestyle; then they deserve the suffering of their sinful ways.
Believing someone is "born gay" would assume that God doesn't have a problem with homosexuality. Which of course he must, since the Old Testament says homosexuality is an abomination ("they shall surely be put to death" !!!) and the New Testament says homosexuals won't inherit the kingdom of God
Of course, this is the same bible that says bastards shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord (even up to the 10th generation of an illegitimate child), and neither shall someone who has injured their scrotum or penis. And yes, the same bible that says women can't speak in church. Tough crowd!