IowaGuy
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You are incorrect, we are not social by nature, we are social by necessity.
Same thing. Without social ties you would be dead. We have evolved to be social creatures.
Conforming is the opposite of individualism, and if your emphasis is too uch on conformity, ultimately you give up the individual and become just a persona, only personality, a character.
I totally agree. That's why I stress temporary conformity. If you could see me now at home in lounge mode, you would barely recognize me at the next public hearing I present at when I'm in professional mode. I am still an individual in both circumstances, with the same inner character.
You are assuming that all people are crude and obnoxious, is this really your perception of me though? I am blunt and direct, but rarely outright rude. I am unwilling to waver on that, and if it causes my will to not be done, if I am having to compromise in any way, my will has not been done. Do not place on the other anything you would not carry yourself, but why will you be burdened by another being direct and completely honest? It is only possible because my words have damaged your ego, yet this is exactly what I attempt to point out every time I do so: You exist as a fragile ego, let your being break through.
I have a pretty thick skin, thicker than most. But many people on this earth don't have a thick skin and their egos can be easily damaged. Sometimes you are too blunt, IMHO. Especially when you use words such as stupid, fool, etc.
You could accomplish more, and people would be more receptive to your message (parts of which I personally agree with), if you learned to polish your presentation a little more with regards to your audience.
When Jesus and Buddha were trying to convince someone of the truth of their message, how many times did they preface their message of truth with "you're stupid" or "shut up" or "you're a fool". They didn't do that because it's not very effective. Shocking, yes. Effective agent of social change, no.