Its because my daughter is being horrible. Shes 16 and trying to get away with stuff she knows she isnt suppose to do.
It is natural that the child rebels, it shows she is becoming mature.
Allow her, continue as a guide but only when she comes to you, it is a good example for the mind: the more we say to the mind "be quiet", the more it rattles on. So it is for the child, you tell her not to do this and that and she will gravitate more towards it - you are just giving her new ideas.
You should embrace her curiosity, give her a safe environment for any experimentation, and eventually it will pass. If it remains a rebellion it won't pass because it becomes identified with her individuality, she has to go against you to show she is her own person.
She is growing up, you should be happy about that, but it means you can no longer approach her so much as a mother, you have to start transitioning towards the friend. Both are merely roles, identifications of the mind, you have to learn to respond directly and intelligently. She will go against you in every way she can until she moves out, yet is this not desirable, that she go into the world and make something of herself?
You will look at her as the young child you raised still, but she is allowing life to take its course, she is moving forward naturally, do not fight it.