I don't want to, but if I may quote Edmund Burke - "The only thing necessary for evil to prevail is for good men to do nothing". This is an ugly and hard to absorb truth, but a mindset I have come to adopt over the years. As I stated ... I abhor war and violence, but I'm not so self righteous that my so called piety would allow another to inflict harm on those I love if I can prevent it.
Did you change your mind betwen posts, or do you still maintain: self-righteous if you don't act to protect, and unrighteous if you do? I am encouraged by the later post.Actually, I wouldn't call any kind of violence righteous. Violence is an ugly thing, and that's the point. It's an unrighteous act ... no matter the reason a person turns to it.
I was saying that the opposite of being self-righteous is to seek the approval of others. I place that for any scenario. A parent should seek to obtain the approval of their children just as a child seeks the approval of their parents. It either helps to raise the children, or helps to raise the parents. It can strengthen relationships, but it can help cause some separations, hopefully for the better. Same for employer / employee, business / customer, etc...