So I see three distinct levels: abortion, contraception and celibacy. Each with quite a leap between them. Abortion is an absolute no-no in the Church, contraception seems to be a simple no (?)...
Er, yes and no? Abortion is a no-no, contraception a no-no. There's more allowance in the confessional for the latter, as it's a prevention rather than an intervention.
The Church's view of 'the rhythm method' I've always found somewhat questionable, as it seems the sole purpose of intercourse is the generation of children, so intercourse when the woman is unable to conceive seems a 'workaround', and the intention not to conceive is the same. I do not accept the idea that God had engineered things for just that purpose — all animals have their procreative seasons, and if I were engineering things I'd have a situation where men and women come 'on heat' once a year or something, rather than enable them to engage in 'naughtiness' at the drop of a hat!
Young girls are able to conceive at an age when their physiology is not yet up to the rigours of child-bearing. I was on the receiving end of an impassioned lecture from a friend, an editor in the medical profession, who went through the list of long term and sometimes chronic health issues caused by girls falling pregnant before they're fully grown. Just more evidence of the fact we were not micro-managed at this level, so there needs to be more than simply falling back on a black-and-white view of the issues.
... and celibacy is in some situations commended.
As I understand it, based on recent reading, monks and nuns take a vow of celibacy, whereas priests 'give their word', which is not quite the same thing.
Whilst the Orthodox idea that sexual continence is a charism, a gift of God, and not a given with the vocation to the priesthood, is somewhat dubious — I regard it somewhere along the line of asexuality which is all part and parcel of sexual variance in the species — I think the idea that all priests, when you think of the numbers involved to manage a global religion, can practice continence is simply asking too much.
There's no evidence to affirm the idea that enforced celibacy leads to sexual misconduct (specifically one leading to the idea that 'priest' is a synonym of 'paedophile' — and I know one priest personally who was beaten up on just that premise), my mum reliably informs me that the requirement does create stresses that the individual needs to manage, not the least chronic loneliness, and that it does lead to other tensions, such as ill-temper and alcohol abuse, etc.
In her view, in many cases a priest would do his job better if he were married, and I tend to think she's probably right.
On the other hand, whilst seminaries have been advised to 'weed out' homosexuals in the community, this too is wrong, as homosexuality by inclination does not necessarily lead to the act — any more than heterosexuality — and certainly not paedophilia, which is practiced by men regardless of their sexual orientation (other than asexuality).
My sister's parish was 'dead in the water' as far as community went, until a quite 'camp' young priest (possibly homosexual, although a 'camp' nature does not mean it's a given) got things moving on all fronts, and now its healthy, thriving and in his spirits, a service within the broader community.
We must get away from this idea that one is either 'straight' or 'gay', and there's no half measures. Nature is so amply supplied with indisputable evidence to the contrary.
And the idea that socially unacceptable sexual preference can be 'cured' ... well people just need to be cured of that nonsense!
According to Scripture, Jesus was happy enough to sit and chat with rich and poor, old and young, soldiers, tax collectors, Samaritans, prostitutes, thieves and beggars ... the only ones He got angry with were hypocrites. I'm sure He'd be just as happy in the company of heterosexuals, pansexuals, asexuals, transgender, confused, uncertain, and all stops in between.
And so should we all.