My wife is gay but I have no idea how many gay people there are in the Baha'i Faith. I know of one Baha'i who grew up in the community that turned out to be gay, and quit the Baha'i Faith to have love, according to his father. I think he still believed in Baha'u'llah. I don't understand the attitude that if you don't have gay sex you don't have love. There have been some Baha'is on the forums that have tried to argue against it or argued that this prohibition is temporary. My wife supports this law.So if a gay person joins Bahai they have to stay celibate? Do you have many gay members? And how do they respond to this "rule"?
My wife is gay but I have no idea how many gay people there are in the Baha'i Faith. I know of one Baha'i who grew up in the community that turned out to be gay, and quit the Baha'i Faith to have love, according to his father. I think he still believed in Baha'u'llah. I don't understand the attitude that if you don't have gay sex you don't have love. There have been some Baha'is on the forums that have tried to argue against it or argued that this prohibition is temporary. My wife supports this law.
often we find, repeatedly we find (often in headlines) the bigots who are most boisterous and vocal about homophobia are later found with pictures or toe tapping in public bathrooms, religious leaders and political figures standout in this regard. I think this stems from the theory that what we hate in someone else is often something we are struggling with ourselves.I think homophobia is male-based medieval bigotry, and it disgusts me how some "religious" types condone it. Its also curious how lesbians are invariably exempted from this mindless nonsense.
Fear of their own feelings.I think it's probably founded on fear.
My wife is not sexually attracted to me, but loves me very much. Real love has little to with sex. In the early days we had sex, and now have one son. In recent years we don't have sex, and it doesn't matter to me. What my wife really wants is not sex but cuddling together in bed and I provide that for her on most days. I was never sexually attracted to her either, she is fat, and I am not sexually attracted to fat. I think mostly why I have loved her because she has loved me.Your wife is gay? How does that work in practice if you're straight?
Hmmmmm... So you do not believe like Christians, that Allah loves everybody or that Allah is love itself....
Can you elaborate upon that? I do not believe that either but I get a lot of flak from some of my fellow Baha'is who believe God is All-Loving.
Plenty of couples I've met with that lament. Most not with the level of understanding you have displayed.Sex is important to me, but not to my wife. I am grateful for her willingness to have sex with me especially knowing she does not like sex.
Salaam Trailblazer ! No I do not believe Allah Al Wadud (The Most Loving) loves everybody, but I do believe Allah's love is beyond the love we can get or give - from or to anybody. Such a belief is not at odds with Qur'an - here is a Quranic list of who Allah loves and who Allah does not love :
Those whom Allah loves
2:195, 222
3:76,134,148
5:13,42,93
7:31,55
9:4,7,108
49:9
60:8
61:4
Those whom Allah does not love
2:190, 205, 276
3.32, 57, 140
4:36, 107, 148
5:18, 54, 64, 87
My belief is that creation is a revelation itself - that our existence and all of existence is constantly telling us about the Source of existence. What the revelation of creation tells me is that The Creator is not "All Loving" - not always kind, but it does not tell me The Creator is unloving or unkind or without compassion.
I guess I am just not seeing what you see, but that does not mean it is not there. I still have a problem with God being All-Loving, but I am open to changing that opinion if I get some evidence which I require.It seems to me that some believe "God" is a personification of love - as the love goddesses of many ancient cultures, which seems to gives rise to questioning why an "All Loving God" would allow so many seemingly unloving & seemingly cruel things to exist. I believe these things exist - ultimately - to show us the reality/truth of our Creator - beyond the duality of good & bad (evil) - a Supreme transcendent truth reflected in the metaphor of existence.
As Dale once said, sex is not love and love is not sex. Sex is a part of our lower material nature, not part of our higher spiritual nature. Unless people want children, I do not think anyone needs sex, they just want sex, and that says it all.My wife is not sexually attracted to me, but loves me very much. Real love has little to with sex. In the early days we had sex, and now have one son. In recent years we don't have sex, and it doesn't matter to me. What my wife really wants is not sex but cuddling together in bed and I provide that for her on most days. I was never sexually attracted to her either, she is fat, and I am not sexually attracted to fat. I think mostly why I have loved her because she has loved me.
There does not have to be a practice because not everyone wants sex, and nobody actually needs sex, they just think they do.Your wife is gay? How does that work in practice if you're straight?
the survival of the human race does.nobody actually needs sex, they just think they do.
Only for as long as it takes to procreate.the survival of the human race does.