ok, ok here is where I am an expert. Lets just say that this fool has to go to sleep sometime, baby and when he does, I wouldnt be surprised if he woke up with an knife across his throat.
What makes me an expert??? Brother, I could write a book abut you wouldnt believe me anyway. Yes, you can Break an animal by this kind of treatment and it happens all the time but one day or night after inflicting this kind of treatment on said wife remember you may never wake up.
Because I havent got a penis makes me a lesser person.?? CRAP. And I say bring it on mate if youve got the guts to try it. (this message is to all the previous believers of the crap mentioned by mahommed al alrifi.
Hey, grey.
You don't have to hold a knife up to a man's throat to make him feel vulnerable. Vulnerability is a frequent occurence in the life of men. We just don't express the condition as often as women do.
If you're a victim of domestic violence that's a sign of vulnerability. As men aren't always good at expressing themselves and aren't that good at finding resolutions for emotional problems, violence is sometimes the solution.
Women have more white matter in their brain. I guess that allows women to see "more of the big picture" and therefore to be able to reason better emotionally and find resolutions for emotional problems. Men have more grey matter in their brain, which I take to mean that we're "more focused" in our thinking.
I guess it's just easier for a woman to bring emotional issues
into the foreground so they can be resolved. I believe it has a lot to do with the abundance of white matter in women's brains. Men would be more reluctant to bring emotional issues into the foreground due to the fact that they have less white matter in their brain. Life throws a lot of decisions at you and because of the number of decisions that have to be made, we just can't deal with it all at once. The "foreground" is already occupied. No room for emotional issues. Violence and aggressive behaviour are signs that a man wants to get a fight over and done with so he can focus on other things.
When one criticises a man over something he doesn't want to bring into the foreground, one starts to do emotional damage. He wants you to just shut up so he can get on with his life. He isn't ready for this . . . he just can't take anymore of it. His mind is overloading.
All of a sudden he feels vulnerable. People are criticising him, judging him. Their expectations of him are too high. He can't keep up with the demands or standards. People are getting in his way, stopping him from being the man he wants to be.
Vulnerability. We can only take so much. We're not as high and mighty as we make out to be.
It's only because people have such high expectations of us. They put us under pressure to hold our heads high and not fall . . .
Violence against women is a sign of vulnerability. Hey -- it's your job as a woman to probe deeper. You're good at finding emotional resolutions. Violence is a sign that you don't know him well enough -- you and him haven't connected well enough. Reach out and touch him -- he needs you. He feels vulnerable and needs an ally. You're his ally. Don't be his opponent.
Pardon me for saying this . . . but . . . You may have more white matter in your brain, see more of the big picture and be better at resolving emotional issues, but it doesn't mean that . . . you have to be patronising because you're more articulate than men.
He feels vulnerable because he can't take your criticism. You feel vulnerable because he's stronger than you and is now beating you up. The brawn starts beating up the brain.
But let's just rewind things a little . . . to the point where he's on the verge of breaking down, desperate and broken. At this point, you don't have to be vulnerable. It's not you that's vulnerable -- it's him. This is your chance to use your qualities as woman to "tame the beast" (so to speak). This is when you can start addressing his vulnerabilities. He'll cool down and become less aggressive.
If you treat a man as an enemy, he'll treat you as an enemy too. Men have an implicit persecution complex. For men, life is a war. We were born to fight the dragons and demons. The world is full of predators. In a world of conflict and adversity, we look for allies. When you first met him, he saw you as an ally. When he believed you had turned against him, he started seeing you as an adversary rather than an ally, a confidant. He shared his secrets with you, so now you know where to hurt him. He fights with you because he believes you are using your personal knowledge of him to hurt him.
If we fight each other, we will both turn out to be losers in the end. If you are nice to him, you may find that, as well as fighting his dragons and demons, he can fight your's too. He is as much as your ally as you are his. The marriage was meant to seal the alliance for good . . . so you can fight wars against a common enemy.
If you're a woman, are you invincible? This is how you achieve . . . invincibility. Men and women reach their full potential when they know how to deal with each other.
Edit: Oh, btw since you often end your messages with "love the grey," I just thought I might say this: Love the white!!!!
