Oh my kids are in my Sunday school class. But I surely don't beat it into them or berate them about it. I hope upon hope that I am raising them into thinking individuals and what they end up believing will be upto them.Well, do you LOVE your children? If your child does something that is off from what you know, headed for a pit, what do you do? Simply watch? Remain silent? Punish your beliefs into them? Do you NOT chastise and belittle the activities and poor choices that you believe will get them into trouble? Do you praise the behaviour you believe will keep them out of trouble? Or do you avoid rebuke and judgment, and simply enable your children to do whatever they please? Do you beat your beliefs into them? Do you simply NOT lay down ground rules? Do you teach the beliefs and lessons that you've learned, or do you force your children out to go learn their own lessons the hard way from somewhere else?
I find the phrase 'tough love' has a positive and important meaning in the halls of AA, NA, foundations, philanthropy, charity, medicine, schools, and parenting. When I look in the gospels, I see that it is what Jesus did.
Do I judge, yup, control yup, but do I feel that that is what Jesus taught in these passages...nope...slipping I am. Thay said it when refering to our garden, if we were growing cabbages or roses and they weren't growing as we wished what would we do? Would we beat them, yell at them, or would we provide the care and nutrition they need?? Gibran also said it wonderfully in his treatise on children.
I give my children and those around me information. How they use it is upto them. Do I wish them to make the mistakes I made? No more than my parents did, yet I had to learn on my own, I expect my children will be similar. I have no interest in raising automatons or regurgitators. If they decide to listen or follow the teachings of Christ, it will be due to my example, not my belt or tongue.