Hey Donna,
Nope mine was not a pity post! You know you and I disagree on, things, ;-), but I miss you and Dor when you're not around. You have the courage of your convictions.
Sometimes I'm up for the 'debates' here but most of the time I just lurk myself and read, and post more-or-less lightweight posts. I don't enjoy getting jumped on either.
As to these personal pages and friends etc., I mostly forget that we have the option unless someone posts on my page first. I'm always happy when I get a friend request, but then in reciprocal I don't ask many people unless asked first just because I KNOW I would end up leaving someone out and feelings get hurt etc.. So, I kind of go with the flow on it and don't judge myself by it.
Anyway, it is good to see you posting again. Hang in there sister!