That's right, Almighty God does not "send" anybody anywhere !
That is the problem here .. it's one of comprehension.
You have agreed that our souls are eternal [ at least, as regards to going to heaven ]
..but you seem to be saying that our souls do not HAVE to be eternal when it is a case of failure [ i.e. going to hell ]
You want to make your own idea of reality, to fit in with an intuitive feeling that God will only let us suffer in this life,
but not the next .. because He is "only Loving" .. so ignoring what is taught in Matthew.
What about the parent that loves his child, but the child refuses to listen?
That parent will be dismayed, but reality is as it is .. and the parent has to accept that the child will be lost, and suffer.