kenod said:
Where we sometimes do need more boldness, I think, is in imposing Christian standards in our own space: eg, I politely ask a person not to use the Lord's name in vain when he/she is in my house, car, office.
I also think that as Christians we can speak out about how we believe society should or should not function. Censorship is a contentious issue, as are many others. Boldness to articulate your beliefs is a virtue, I say.
I think there's a danger to saying how we think society should or should not function. Culture and society have a particular structure associated with them. It's a framework that affects our lives, but we don't have to allow it to control us. Then there are those who think it's important to shape the legal system according to "particular values." Culture, society, the legal system and the political system that control our lives are part of the environment in which we live. I think one of the most important goals in Christianity is
not to control this environment, but
to not be controlled by such an environment.
I think there's a saying:
One man adapts the world to himself, another man adapts himself to the world.
Sometimes in life there are people we don't like, possibly people of bad character. Rude. Obnoxious. Selfish. Arrogant. Inconsiderate. Yet, just because they make life so miserable for us, doesn't mean we have to be just as rude, selfish, arrogant and obnoxious as them. Otherwise, it's tit for tat -- we are just as bad as them. Imagine living in a world where people always responded in kind, rather than being nice despite being wronged. You hurt me, I hurt you.
That's when we allow the environment to control us. It's the same with a legal system, political system or even culture. When we promote certain values, we believe that people can't be changed except by changing the structure of the world or the way it functions.
I think the point of being a Christian is that you no longer want to be controlled by the world or the way it functions. One of the goals of being a Christian is to
isolate yourself from negative influences of the world, or try not to be controlled by them. We are supposed to aim to be independent of how society works.
Some societies and cultures have strict rules, but some are "very liberal." Yet despite what the world desires, we don't have to conform. We don't have to follow the strict rules just because the rest of the world does, and we don't have to be naughty, dirty, obscene and licentious just because this is what the rest of the world likes. Of course, if you're not following the rules that society throws at you, and you're not dirty because society likes to be filthy, you may conform to something else. You may follow some other set of rules. But "being different" doesn't mean conforming to something else. While there are things in society we may not like, we do not necessarily have to make a "song and dance" about so-called "moral issues." It is not our problem. If that's what they want, it's because they can handle it.
The danger is that you can start giving people the impression that Christians have to live up to certain standards. The worst thing that can happen is that if you are one of those really "accountable" and "responsible" Christians, with a view that "being a Christian" is about being "accountable" then there is a big chance people will judge
other Christians that way -- Christians that
can't live up to the same standards. Moreover, they start expecting
you to live up to those standards.
What if
I can't live up to these standards? It's not that I "prefer to walk in darkness." No, certainly not. I prefer to "walk in the light," but at the same time I know I can't be spotlessly clean all at once. There is a process. A process of change. Perhaps I will never be able to live up to the standards you set for me.
Obviously that doesn't that mean that I am not Christian, just because I don't live up to the standard. It doesn't make me a blasphemer or "walker in darkness." I think not!!! I think it's the effort we put in to change and improve ourselves. The achievements themselves are less important than the effort put in.
Imposing so-called "Christian values" or "standards" has the dangerous effect of defining Christianity for the rest of the world. What I think would work better is if we explain what Christainity means to us individuals rather than as a group. Get rid of the group think element or group mentality.
Quahom1 said:
It is also irrelevent if the speaker has no credibility with the one being spoken to. Talk is cheap. Actions (personal actions day to day) are priceless.
It's a common view that actions speak loudest. But what if there's something else that speaks louder, particularly when you're sharing your faith?
If I know I can't live up to the standard, living up to the standard is probably not the best way to share my faith. If I can't be strong, then I'll have to be weak. If I try to be strong, but can't function that way, I'd be over-reaching myself. On the surface I may appear to be a caring, nice, strong person, but deep down I'm a weakling without the heart or motivation. I can't maintain that strength because it isn't real.
But I reckon you can still share your faith even when you are weak, when life is messy and wishy-washy, especially if you're honest about it. I think what really matters is what you live for and what you believe in, not what you do. People would want to get to know you, particularly your sensitive side. Get them to know the real you!!!
Your personality speaks even louder than your actions. I don't think Christianity is just about actions, but also belief and faith. This is why it's important to share what you believe in and live for. That's what matters. Furthermore, actions can be used to manipulate (sell your product) whereas personality is much harder to duplicate. But at least people give you more credit for your personality than your actions. It's easier to produce actions than good personality.
If people see what you personally believe in, they will be more convinced that there is something of substance in what you share. You wouldn't believe in something if you didn't personally have a reason for it, would you?