You may be right, path. But how often do covens, knitting circles, volunteer organizations, or adopt-a-grandmother family go door to door? Fact is, she found a community church, after someone visited her from it. There are plenty of lonely people who don't visit churches on their own because they are shy. It's nice to be invited sometimes. I mean, how often do you crash parties without an invitation?
I don't think most people in the US consider church a party. It's not as if people don't know churches are open to the public. I've never felt odd going to a new church or other public religious event uninvited. It's a public place. That'd be like me waiting for an invitation to go to the shopping mall or park.
As for others going around, my point is that it shouldn't come to door-knocking. It's not like anyone lives in a bubble. Where were these old lady's neighbors, the people at the grocery store, etc. She has to go
somewhere and if we weren't running around "too busy" to notice when someone is lonely and talk to them, it wouldn't come to randomly knocking on people's doors. I can't speak for others, but I have no need to randomly knock on people's doors, because God brings me to the people who need it, or brings them to me.
Additionally, and not to sound like a heartless person (hopefully y'all know me well enough to know I love people), but where is the responsibility of people for their own lives? I mean, if the lady was lonely, she could go to a local senior citizens center and take some classes, join a women's group, volunteer at a local org, etc. Why do we assume she has no responsibility if she is miserable? When I'm miserable, I take responsibility for it. Yeah, the world might not be all roses, but I can definitely choose to do things to make myself happy or not. So maybe she is shy. Maybe she is grieving. Maybe she is depressed. Her and a lot of other people. Part of life is personal growth and learning to care for oneself, learning what one's needs are and filling these. Sometimes, this means looking at oneself honestly and saying, "If I'm feeling like I want to die, maybe I need to do something about that and see a counselor."
And, to answer your question further... when I did adopt-a grandparent, we did go around to senior citizens' homes around the neighborhood. Also, I have several charities that come to my door regularly. And I've been invited to join several non-Christian groups, including a women's spiritual and craft circle.
Now, perhaps you go to a rare church where the emphasis on serving others and not putting people in the pews, but my experience with door-to-door missionaries is that their primary emphasis is telling me how right they are and that I should convert.
Case in point- I am not a lonely old lady. I have my own religion. I tell them these things. And then I am told more verses, more about how people will burn in hell, more about how XYZ Church of Always Being Right is The Only Way to go to heaven, etc. etc.
So... my conclusion stands that, at least in my experience,
most of the door-knockers care about being right and getting more people to agree with them and join their group. It's all about them and their feelings of wanting to be right, to feel the security of that correctness, to have their beliefs reinforced. They don't care in the least about me and my needs, or they would
listen and be respectful to me about already having a religion/spirituality.